Most divorces are final, and although the two parties may find peace with each other, it’s usually not enough to bring them back together as a couple. Some people, however, actually do get back together, and get remarried! The people around them usually think they’re crazy, considering the cost of getting a divorce and all the stress and negativity that goes along with it. The chances of that couple getting divorced again are lower than before, but also not unheard of.
This is why it’s important to have clear and regular communication with your ex, not about equitable distribution or other matters that are brought to court, but about your children, if you have them, or other issues that can be handled outside of court. If you both start to realize that you can work out your issues that originally led to your divorce, and still find that you have sincere feelings for one another, then the sooner you’re able to put a stop to the divorce process, the better.
Most people don’t realize they want to be back with their ex until quite some time after their divorce has been finalized, when both parties have had the chance to cool down and let go of a lot of the animosity that built up before and during the divorce.
What you should keep in mind, if you’re considering getting back with your ex after the divorce, are the reasons you got divorced in the first place. You may have good feelings coming back to you after some time of being at peace with your ex, however, you are no longer living together and may be leaving out important details about that person that would ultimately make you regret going back to them. Realize that something as serious and as final as a divorce usually happens for a valid reason, so you need to put extensive time and rational thinking into how you want your relationship with your ex to be. If you realize your ex does more bad than good for you, but you still have feelings there; let your rational thinking about the long term keep you from making the mistake of going back to your ex. Be sure to talk with family and friends for support and feedback about these important life decisions.