Science Says What Kind of Men Women are Most Attracted to

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Science Says What Kind of Men Women are Most Attracted to

Guys are traditionally the pursuers, and even though we live in an enlightened society most women still prefer it that way. But lots of guys wonder what kind of man women are attracted to, and how to bring the best qualities out in themselves. Women tend to vary greatly in tastes. Lucky for most poor dolts who have hardly a clue, science has stepped in to try and answer the dizzying, age-old question of what kind of guy women want. Here are some of the things science has uncovered. If you’re flying without your wingman, you may find yourself cruising over lonesomeville for quite some time. For one thing, women rate men more attractive in group photos rather than when by themselves, at least according to a study out of the University of San Diego. Therefore, it stands to reason you look better when someone’s there with you. Researchers say this is due to something called the “cheerleader effect.” People look more attractive with their faces together, since incongruities in any one person are sort of evened out by the whole group. Another thing, women like men who know how to work a room. If you are always with an entourage and you’re the life of the party, or at least she thinks you are, you look high status and someone fun to be around.

Are you a single dad? Be sure to take your baby out cruising. Just keep it during daytime hours. Not only will you get father of the year, you might score a few phone numbers. A study in France found that men who cooed, smiled at and talked to infants were 40% more likely to score a woman’s phone number than those who ignored a baby. Researchers say it shows a greater propensity for being a good dad, should the couple have offspring. Some guys shave every day. Others sport a righteous beard. But why not shave every ten days? According to Australian researchers, men who did so were seen as the most attractive. This layer of stubble is thought to project just the right level of masculinity. Here’s some simple advice. Get some nice wheels and you’ll turn heads. If you can’t afford it, borrow some. A British study found that the same dude in a Bentley Continental was found way more attractive than one in a Ford Fiesta, even with the same clothes and facial expressions. Status is the reason, and the projection of resources which he may be willing to share with a certain, special lady.

If you’re an animal lover, taking your dog for a walk may not just be a necessity, but a way to meet someone. A French study found that women were three times more likely to give up their digits to a man walking his dog versus one who approached alone. Dogs break the ice. They also project kindness, sensitivity and thoughtfulness, all qualities women find appealing. Got a little extra time? Why not volunteer? A Cornell study found that women who knew a man volunteered found him a better candidate for dating and a long-term relationship, due to the fact that he was more selfless and compassionate. If you really want to get a woman to fall for you, make her laugh. A University of New Mexico study found that those guys who could make a sharp witted quip and make a woman laugh were more likely to have short-term, uncommitted sex than their straight-laced counterparts. These quick bursts reveal creativity and intellect, two qualities women greatly desire.

Lastly, if you want to get more hits on your dating profile, include the words “creative,” “ambitious,” and “laugh.” Dating sight Zoosk did a survey and found profiles that had these words got 33% more messages. Include words like “read” or “book” or exercise words like jogging, lifting weights and the like also increased message frequency. Be sure to take it slow. Mention “drinks” or “dinner” too quickly and your response rate will plummet 35%. So this advice improves your hit rate. But what about quality control? Read, How To Get A Date Worth Keeping: Be Dating In Six Months Or Your Money Back by Henry Cloud, and you’ll have that covered too.

How to take your Girlfriend to a Gentlemen’s Club

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How to take your Girlfriend to a Gentlemen’s Club

Lots of guys think that they can’t take their girlfriend to a gentlemen’s club.  Truth is some girls are totally down, but your timing has to be right. The circumstances too have to be good. Don’t spring it on her on the way to a funeral, or after work when she’s tired. But if the two of you are bored and staring at each other over a couple of salads on a Saturday night, it might be a fun way to spice things up. There are some things you’d best watch out for. Here is how to take your girlfriend to a gentlemen’s club.

First, don’t tell her once you’ve pulled into the parking lot. Break the idea in advance. Feel it out. If she has any bi-curiosity, bring this up. Let her know that you think it’s hot that she thinks it’s hot. Tell her you want to get all turned on there, come home and make passionate love to her, use it as a way to get to ecstasy. The sale of orgasmic bliss may just be enough to push her over the edge. If it’s about ogling other women, she may or may not be down. But if it’s about her, her enjoyment and her fantasies, she just may be your designated driver.

Don’t get hammered however, or you are likely to make a fool of yourself and ruin any chances of further trips to the strip club. Once there, see if she’s interested in a lap dance. Now if you care about this woman at all, for the love of all that is good in this world, do not take her to the seedy, greasy neighborhood strip club. Don’t take her to a dive. Not only will she not enjoy it, and tell others about it, you will lessen your chances of getting some real hot action later. And who would do that? Find a place she’d like to go to. Show her their web page. Send her some links and ask which one she prefers. Write her dirty texts or emails saying what you will see, and what you will do to her afterward. It’s especially important to talk to her about it a week in advance, and perhaps the day before.

Remember to approach it right, telling her how hot it will be. Maybe you won’t even take her home but have her right in the backseat in the parking lot. How hot would that be? Women get turned on by being desired. And if you hint at the frenzy of passion you will enact upon her, she’ll be so turned on you might even get some action beforehand. Whatever you do never ever compare your girlfriend to the strippers. It will never sound complimentary. Don’t act like you are not at a strip club. You are. Relax and enjoy it and she will too. Be a little bit classy. Ask if it’s okay that you get a lap dance, and perhaps buy her one at the same time. Use it as a fantasy builder for her and you will ultimately reap all the benefits. For more advice on enhancing your sex life read, Spice up Your Marriage: A 28-Day Adventure by Hallie Lord.

Newest Research on Eye Contact

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Newest Research on Eye Contact

We often ignore the impact of eye contact in courting, dating and relationships. Nonverbal communication is 85% of communication experts tell us. Poets have called eyes the window to the soul. You can always feel someone’s eyes upon you. And when you and that special someone’s eyes meet for the very first time, it makes butterflies inhabit your stomach. New research on eye contact has come out unveiling the fascinating secrets of eye contact. First, did you know you can turn someone on just by looking deeply into their eyes? The arousal reaction as researchers call it doesn’t just happen in humans but all social creatures. Now there are different kinds of arousal, and the form the arousal takes depends upon the players and their relationship to one another. Staring deeply into a strangers eyes can appear threatening. But staring directly into a possible mates eyes can signal sexual arousal, perhaps even an invitation. Another breakthrough that may have an impact on your love life, eye contact is a reliable measure of deceit, but not in the way you would first think. A person who tells the truth, researchers uncovered actually makes less eye contact. A liar tends to make more. Why you might ask? Well the one who is deceptive must go out of their way to get the target of their deception to believe them.

Ever see someone smile at you and wonder if they mean it or are just being polite? Knowing this may someday save you from an embarrassing dating faux pas.  “Duchenne” smiles according to researcher Paul Ekman are genuine smiles. The eyes will tell you if you are getting the real McCoy or a fake. In real smiles the eyes crinkle. These create lines, what are commonly known as “crow’s feet.” Fake smiles that feign happiness, warmth, openness or attraction lack this eye crinkling. You know that feeling you get when you are head over heels for someone and they feel the same about you? When you stare deeply into those lipid pools and their peepers are just as locked on yours. Well mutual gaze is part and parcel of being in love according to researchers who cover attraction and love. Lastly a dilation of the pupils is not only a sign of attraction, it can make you look attractive to the opposite sex. Whenever humans are interested in something or someone our pupils tend to dilate. In one experiment female participants were given eye drops that caused their pupils to dilate. Those women with dilated pupils were rated as more attractive than women whose pupils were not dilated. So use these new research techniques to your advantage. Make sure to give authentic smiles, pick darkened venues for your dates to dilate your pupils, and stare deeply into the one you wants eyes to make them your love. For more on this topic, read The Power of Eye Contact: Your Secret for Success in Business, Love, and Life by Michael Ellsberg.

Being more Physically Intimate with your Husband

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Though women do experience intimacy sexually, they also experience it in many other ways. And in fact, to most women sex is an aspect of life but one that isn’t as important as others. For men however sex and intimacy are inextricably linked. Being more physically intimate with your husband therefore will increase intimacy for him and hence reflect back upon you. Surely it doesn’t cure all of the problems in marriage. But if you don’t mind increasing sexual frequency, and of course it should be loads of fun with you two, it will also strengthen your bond, put you both in better moods and allow you to tackle any marital problems with gusto. First, take a look at how often you two are physically intimate. What is the frequency and depth of passion? Oftentimes after the initial honeymoon phase is over couples fall into routines, then a rut and the sex gets dull. Why not start a conversation and discuss this with your husband? Don’t make it negative however. Instead, have an open and honest conversation about it. Some wine and candlelight can provide the mood to talk about reigniting your sex life. What fantasies has he wanted to try that you aren’t doing? What fantasies have you wanted to try that have not occurred? The conversation itself will be lively, fun, alluring and erotic. You’ll soon find a renewed interest in the goings on in the bedroom.

Many couples suffer from a desire discrepancy. This is when one partner has a stronger libido than the other. Perhaps find ways to feel more erotic. There is erotic literature, movies and other outside stimulation. Spend some time on learning how your own body works. What feels good? What do you like? Take a look at the things that turn you on. Are there certain scenes in movies or books that get your engine running? What is it about them? The mind is where it all begins. Explore sensuousness. Incorporate materials, scents, mood lighting, lingerie and other things that feel good. Try incorporating dirty talk or pillow talk. There are plenty of toys to use, there’s role play, BDSM and other things to incorporate into your repertoire. When you two are together and begin touching and kissing, focus on how good it feels, giving your husband your full attention. If this doesn’t help, there is couple’s therapy or sex therapy, should you feel as though you can’t get things to where they should be on your own. To explore this topic further, pick up a copy of Reclaiming Desire: 4 Keys to Finding Your Lost Libido by Andrew Goldstein.

Things Guys think are a Turn on that Actually Turn Women off

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Each lady is different. Every woman likes to be kissed differently and has their own ideas on what is hot and what is not. But there are a few behaviors that all women agree men should stop doing. Here are some things guys think are a turn on when actually they are a turn off. Guys, don’t be too aggressive in asking for her number. She may be playing hard to get but be smooth. Don’t be pushy. That is a turn off. If she doesn’t want to give it to you, give her yours. She may call you. When you are making out with a woman don’t lick her ear. It may look good in the movies. In reality it’s something more a horse or a cow would do to her than her boyfriend. Don’t breathe in her ear either. That tickles. A little nibble of the earlobe is all you need to get her turned on. When kissing don’t try to slobber all over her face. Remember less tongue is more, at least in the beginning. Don’t nibble her lips either. She’ll feel as though she’s being eaten by a giraffe. Instead go soft and interweave soft and hard kisses. That will get her.

You don’t have to suck everything. Sometimes hard and soft gentle kisses on her neck, shoulders, arms and fingertips is all that she needs to get her engine running. If you want her to feel that intense feeling, tug her hair a little bit. Make sure you have a lot in your hand, not one tiny strand or else it’s going to hurt. And if you pull her hair too hard you will stop things in their tracks. Instead, just make it feel intense. That doesn’t mean doing it hard, that means doing it tight and pulling her closer with it. If you are going to whisper sweet nothings, start out small and build. Don’t use lines and don’t be corny. It’s okay to make little jokes and make her laugh. Make reference to some of the other times you’ve kissed together. If you can’t think of anything alluring to say to her, focus on eye contact, facial expressions, body contact, and use these to warm her up. Don’t take a make out session too far if it’s early in the relationship. Make sure she’s ready to go to the next level. Feel her out first. That said, don’t be too shy either. Make sure you take care of her needs. Focus on her and be attentive. Use a little confidence, bravado, charm and gusto and she will respond. For more guidance on what turns women on, read the advice of W. Anton in their book, The Manual: What Women Want and How to Give It to Them.