Things Men do that Don’t Impress

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Things Men do that Don’t Impress

It isn’t easy finding someone to date around here. The prospect can be at times glorifying, terrifying and downright dull. It surely isn’t easy to catch the attention of the right person either. But sometimes guys go about it all wrong. They try to impress but end up turning her off. Alexander Dumass recently approached AskWomen forum on Reddit and asked what the worst ways to pick up women were. The results are as follows. Pay careful attention gentleman; here are the things men say or do that do not impress. Some guys trash talk women. But if you are trying to impress her why would you insult her whole sex? Follow up question, how is that supposed to make you look good?

Guys, if you’ve been having trouble with the ladies, think about why that is. Was it the girls you were dating? If so, it may be your selection process that was off. And just as men hate it when women put us in an entire category, so too do they. Don’t be so negative, and if you feel that way perhaps couch those feelings until later, or don’t approach her at all. Don’t insult your current flame. If you are saying negative things about her what makes you think she’s going to want to date you? You see, if you are saying these things about your current girl, it makes logical sense that if this new girl starts dating you she’ll sooner or later be the one being insulted. So again keep the negativity to a minimum.

Showing off how much money you make is a turnoff. As one Redditor wrote, “It’s not douchey to have money or to spend money on nice things. It is douchey to brag about how much money you make and the nice things you own, to make a big show of spending your money so everyone can see how rich you are, or to act as though being wealthy somehow makes you better than those around you.” If you get her number do not send her a photo of your member. Men may be visual creatures but women are turned on mentally and emotionally. If she does enjoy that sort of thing, and ask her first before doing it, make sure you are deeply involved in a relationship.

If you really want to turn her on and make her like you, talk to her, find out what she likes, what she’s into and find out all you can about it. Don’t go down a checklist of why you are the best guy to be her man. This isn’t an interview and you aren’t filling a position. These are women, beautiful, mysterious creatures. Appeal to her on a fun, interesting, human level. It’s more about making an emotional bond than fulfilling the duties of the position. Do not tell her or even brag about how many women you’ve been with. Don’t lie and say you are really into something that you aren’t into just to get close to her. Be honest with her. If you say it’s your favorite film, make sure it is. Women have incredible B.S. meters. Lastly, find out about her. Don’t just go on and on about yourself, or you might turn around and find she’s slipped off. For more advice read, How to Be a Chick Magnet: Learn Exactly How to Attract and Impress a Girl, and Master the Art of Talking to Women by Calvin Biggs.

Guys Are Drawn to the Damsel in Distress

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So many movies are the same. The lovely young maiden is trapped by the evil wretched villain. Her only hope, a knight in shining armor who swoops in to vanquish his opponent, free his lady love, sweep her up into his arms and ride off with her clutching him as the sun sets and the credits roll. But it isn’t just Hollywood that’s obsessed with the damsel in distress, guys fall for this female character, too. Many women, particularly in the West who are independent and can take care of themselves, hate this stereotypical heroine, and Hollywood and other media sources have heard and adjusted. This phenomenon still hangs on. So why are guys drawn to the damsel in distress? Mostly it’s because it makes him feel manly to be able to swoop in and save her. It makes him feel wanted, needed, important, a hero. It also makes her look feminine to him. Men throughout the ages have been traditionally the protectors and providers. Women, whether the modern feminist minded want to admit it or not, are also attracted to men who can make them feel safe and secure. Helping boosts a man’s ego. But saving a woman whom he also finds irresistible, that is a recipe for a man in love. Another thing, it’s easy to approach this woman. She needs help and he can provide it. It puts him at a superior standing.

This feeling of being a man, of doing manly things and becoming secured in one’s manliness helps to build the male ego. When he feels important, wanted, needed, and essential it feeds his ego, makes him feel manly and gives him a sense of pride that he is doing something good for a woman who deserves his services. The trick is to be a damsel in distress and at the same time not to be needy. This is easier said than done. Guys do want a woman to be independent. He wants her generally to have her own friends, career and passions in life. But he doesn’t want to feel as though she doesn’t need him at all. If you want to get closer to him but still maintain your independence, simply ask for his help in something. It could be a little matter. To fix something, ask for help in using a technical piece of equipment for instance if you are both working in the office together. The copier is always a source of consternation for any office worker. If there isn’t anything mechanical or technical around, ask for his advice or opinion on something. Thank him later on and let him know how much he helped. Once you’ve primed his ego in this manner he’s bound to warm to you. Remember not to use this all the time if you happen to be dating a guy or else you may come off as needy. But a little request for help now and then can pique his interest in you and let him know he’s needed and desired. For more tips on how to attract a man, read the advice of Ellen Dugan in her book, How To Enchant A Man: Spells to Bewitch, Bedazzle & Beguile.