Science Says What Kind of Men Women are Most Attracted to

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Science Says What Kind of Men Women are Most Attracted to

Guys are traditionally the pursuers, and even though we live in an enlightened society most women still prefer it that way. But lots of guys wonder what kind of man women are attracted to, and how to bring the best qualities out in themselves. Women tend to vary greatly in tastes. Lucky for most poor dolts who have hardly a clue, science has stepped in to try and answer the dizzying, age-old question of what kind of guy women want. Here are some of the things science has uncovered. If you’re flying without your wingman, you may find yourself cruising over lonesomeville for quite some time. For one thing, women rate men more attractive in group photos rather than when by themselves, at least according to a study out of the University of San Diego. Therefore, it stands to reason you look better when someone’s there with you. Researchers say this is due to something called the “cheerleader effect.” People look more attractive with their faces together, since incongruities in any one person are sort of evened out by the whole group. Another thing, women like men who know how to work a room. If you are always with an entourage and you’re the life of the party, or at least she thinks you are, you look high status and someone fun to be around.

Are you a single dad? Be sure to take your baby out cruising. Just keep it during daytime hours. Not only will you get father of the year, you might score a few phone numbers. A study in France found that men who cooed, smiled at and talked to infants were 40% more likely to score a woman’s phone number than those who ignored a baby. Researchers say it shows a greater propensity for being a good dad, should the couple have offspring. Some guys shave every day. Others sport a righteous beard. But why not shave every ten days? According to Australian researchers, men who did so were seen as the most attractive. This layer of stubble is thought to project just the right level of masculinity. Here’s some simple advice. Get some nice wheels and you’ll turn heads. If you can’t afford it, borrow some. A British study found that the same dude in a Bentley Continental was found way more attractive than one in a Ford Fiesta, even with the same clothes and facial expressions. Status is the reason, and the projection of resources which he may be willing to share with a certain, special lady.

If you’re an animal lover, taking your dog for a walk may not just be a necessity, but a way to meet someone. A French study found that women were three times more likely to give up their digits to a man walking his dog versus one who approached alone. Dogs break the ice. They also project kindness, sensitivity and thoughtfulness, all qualities women find appealing. Got a little extra time? Why not volunteer? A Cornell study found that women who knew a man volunteered found him a better candidate for dating and a long-term relationship, due to the fact that he was more selfless and compassionate. If you really want to get a woman to fall for you, make her laugh. A University of New Mexico study found that those guys who could make a sharp witted quip and make a woman laugh were more likely to have short-term, uncommitted sex than their straight-laced counterparts. These quick bursts reveal creativity and intellect, two qualities women greatly desire.

Lastly, if you want to get more hits on your dating profile, include the words “creative,” “ambitious,” and “laugh.” Dating sight Zoosk did a survey and found profiles that had these words got 33% more messages. Include words like “read” or “book” or exercise words like jogging, lifting weights and the like also increased message frequency. Be sure to take it slow. Mention “drinks” or “dinner” too quickly and your response rate will plummet 35%. So this advice improves your hit rate. But what about quality control? Read, How To Get A Date Worth Keeping: Be Dating In Six Months Or Your Money Back by Henry Cloud, and you’ll have that covered too.

Get a Girl’s Attention Anywhere

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Get a Girl’s Attention Anywhere

Women are a complicated set. They do change considering the context unlike your run-of-the-mill male who seems pretty much the same no matter where he goes or what time you catch him. At night a bolder approach may be acceptable to a lady who during the day requires gentility and finesse to acquire a date with. So there’s no one size fits all to this ‘get a girl’s attention anywhere’ thing. Instead, there are a few rules you can follow and a few general plays you can put into practice that should be able to work for you. Talking to a woman requires a little panache, a devil may cry attitude and a confidence that doesn’t spill over into vanity or conceit. In the day be subtle. Try a little compliment as an opener. Be classy. Notice her shirt, her style, her hairstyle; something unique to her. Whether she’s at the grocery store or waiting at the subway stop, if you don’t mind rejection and you tighten up your game a little bit, it can work for you. But when it does you’ll be amazed at the number of women who may be interested in you, if approached the right way. Don’t fear rejection however. It happens to everyone. The best guy is the one who can perpetually be positive and not let it get him down, just let it wash right over him.

According to a recent survey by Careerbuilder.com 39% of office workers are trying to get together, even if their company has a no dating policy. Be very careful of dating at work. Make good small talk. Be confident but professional. Feel them out just a little bit with a smile or a tiny bit of flirting and see how they respond. Take it from there. Make sure you stand out. If you are the golden boy at work chances are she’ll be looking in your direction. When you’re out and about don’t try to pick up waitresses, baristas and so on. They have to be nice to you. It’s their job. If they really are interested in you, they’ll let you know. Flirt with them a little. Try and scope the place out and see what their shift is. Show up all the time on their shift and make small talk. Eventually you’ll get to know them and then you can ask them aside, maybe go at a time when it isn’t busy, and ask them out. When you are at a party, be the life of that party. Make the rounds, talk to everyone. Know which girl you want and see that she sees you making the rounds. Lastly, start a conversation with her. Studies have shown that besides confidence women want a man who knows how to socialize and work the room. It’s part of being the alpha male, something women are also naturally attracted to. After she sees you as the life of the party go and talk to her and she’ll more often than not be into you. The Pew Research Center has found that 38% of single adults use internet dating sites or apps to find a date. It’s a great way to find a lady. Just be yourself and think about what kind of woman would dig your profile. For more advice, read The Natural: How to Effortlessly Attract the Women You Want by Richard La Ruina.

Become a Social Butterfly to Get Dates

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Social butterflies are those lucky people who get invited to all the best parties, soirées, box socials and get-togethers. They are generally gregarious, stylish, charming and popular. They also get lots of dates. And it stands to reason, not only for having these great social qualities but the fact that they meet lots of people. It’s just the rule of averages, the more people you meet the more likely your chance of finding someone attractive who is attracted to you. Why not try to become a social butterfly then, improve your career through networking and your social life by making more friends and getting more dates? But how do you become a social butterfly? First, consider if you really have what it takes to be one. Of course, everyone can put in a little more effort to have a vibrant social life. But if you are an introvert by nature and have a difficult time making small talk, perhaps work on your social skills and improve your lot, but don’t shoot for being an absolute social butterfly. Instead, build a social life that reflects who you are and your values. If you have all the makings of a social butterfly but need to amp up your game, read on. Next, change your mindset. See yourself being a successful social butterfly. Focus on why you want to be one and what you have to do to accomplish this goal.

Remember, a social butterfly tries to talk with everyone. If you are a wallflower or only like talking to people you know, this won’t work for you. You have to be comfortable in your own skin to be a social butterfly. Don’t worry about embarrassing yourself. If you do, just laugh about it, make a joke of it, and hold your head up high. You will win people over. They’ll love your resilience. Dress the part. Make sure you are striking and fashionable. That doesn’t mean to change yourself completely or your style. Just turn it up. Make it chic. Introduce them to the newest version of you. Be yourself. Don’t try to be someone else. Take compliments gracefully. Listen generally to others. Be positive. Learn to read other people, their tone, facial expressions, body language and gestures. Find out what the group dynamic is and where you can fit in. Remember to use your body language and eye contact to your advantage. Flirt. Everyone likes to be flirted with. And you can quickly gauge who is interested in you and who isn’t. Be comfortable approaching people. Do something fun, funny, touching or whimsical and get yourself in the spotlight. You will be attracting people and getting phone numbers before you know it. Get to know all the social events, friend’s parties, Meetup groups, Eventbrites and other things you are interested in. And soon you’ll have more dates than you know what to do with. For more insight on how to be more social and get dates, read the advice of Susan Rabin and Barbara Lagowski in their book, 101 Ways to Flirt: How to Get More Dates and Meet Your Mate.