Everyone feels a twinge of jealousy around their significant other now and then. A little bit can make you feel special, and show you how much your girlfriend or wife cares. It’s great to feel so needed and loved. But if there is more than just a little it can cause serious problems in your relationship. The problem is that jealousy can rear its head in so many ugly ways; insecurity, resentment, anxiety and fear. She can exhibit terrible trust issues. And nothing is worse than having a woman you adore distrust you no matter how many ways you prove your devotion to her. Is the special lady in your life exhibiting behavior that’s tearing you two apart instead of pushing you together? Here are some signs that her jealousy is a real problem in your relationship.
Are you able to talk about other women in her presence? If you can’t mention a coworker, a long-time female friend or the waitress at your favorite greasy spoon and how she knows what you are ordering before you ask for it, without your girlfriend getting an attitude, your relationship is in trouble. What happens when you have to work on a project with that female coworker? Or you have to do a campaign with an attractive single woman for a local charity you are involved in? You will have to interact with other women throughout life. And if she can’t handle that you are going to be spending a lot of time consoling her, dodging venomous barbs and getting the cold shoulder.
Truth be told, every guy flirts and every woman too. It’s done in a certain way to be nice, polite and friendly. There’s formal flirting and then there’s the kind of flirting that comes with courtship. The problem is while most girls can tell the difference, if yours gets huffy when you even speak to a girl, never mind speak to her nicely you’ve got a real issue on your hands. The next time you are checking in at the airline counter and the clerk is attractive or a neighbor makes small talk, you are going to be in the doghouse. Do you know what it’s like to be in the doghouse while going on vacation with a woman, at the very beginning of the trip? It’s not fun. All you’ll be thinking about is how much you are paying to not have fun. She’s too jealous if she’s watching your every move with other women.
Is she overbearing? Does she constantly watch over you, want to know where you are, what you are doing, who was on the phone and who you were with? If she’s reading your texts or emails, you’ve got a problem. That shows both a total lack of trust and a breach of privacy, which is a total disregard for your feelings in a paranoid quest to find out what, that there’s nothing there? These machinations of the mind will drive you crazy. You will get no rest. Aren’t you stressed out enough about work? A man’s home should be his sanctuary against the cold, brutal world. And his woman should be his partner, not his antagonist. If you’re the one feeling jealous in your relationship read, Jealousy: Relationship Help with Self-Esteem, Insecurity and Trust Issues by Robert Rain.