If he’s got these in his Search History, Delete Him


If he’s got these in his Search History, Delete Him

We are all guilty of looking at things we shouldn’t on the internet from time to time. But there are certain things that cross the line. Respect and trust need to exist in any relationship for it to be healthy and happy. But there are just certain things a husband or boyfriend shouldn’t be seeking out. If he’s got these websites in his search history, delete him from your life or expect trouble the next time you sign on to his shenanigans. It’s perfectly normal for a guy to seek out some porn. They are guys, they are going to look. But if you happen to find an over-obsessive amount, this is a deal breaker. It may mean he’s addicted to porn. He could then have trouble pleasing you.

Another phenomenon that is occurring, guys who expect their wives and girlfriends to act like porn stars in the bedroom. While you may be all about exploring your kinky side, just understand that the women in these films never get their needs met. So if you want him to go down south, or you wish to explore some of your own fantasies, you’d better come right out and talk about it or it could all be over. Another deal breaker in this realm is porn that is too extreme. Sure he may have a fetish which you enjoy or are at least willing to accommodate. But if you find out he’s really into some sick stuff, it’s time to hit the road. Next thing you know he’ll want to bring some of that stuff into the bedroom. FYI, if you’re up for it, a little bit of good quality porn between consenting adults can actually stimulate your love life form time to time.

If he’s been on dating sites since you two have become an item, get rid of him. He’s a player, a narcissist; he’s self-absorbed and doesn’t care about your feelings. He’s looking to cheat. One side note, make sure you two have verbalized that you are in a committed relationship. Some girls just assume. If you haven’t said it, it isn’t true. When you are only dating you can’t expect him to shut down his dating profile. You never know what might happen. He’s keeping his options open or still deciding on you. You may be in the same phase. But if you’ve said the three little words, be mine only and they said yes, then this guy is a heartless scumbag. He’ll give you a line of crap. If you fall for it, he’ll cheat on you anyway, and you’ll be in more pain and hate yourself worse for failing to see through his jive.

If your man has a long history of surfing gay websites, you need to confront him about it. There’s nothing wrong with different sexual orientations. If you fantasize about having two guys, and the relationship doesn’t mean that much to you emotionally, you may find it exhilarating. Otherwise, your man may run off with another man. How will you feel then? If you find him on Ashley Madison or some other type of cheating website, sign off on this relationship. He’s a cheater and a sneak. For help moving on if or when your break up read, You Didn’t Want Him Anyway: Get Over Any Man in 5 Simple Steps by Claire Casey.

Ways Men Manipulate that Fly under your Radar


Women historically have been thought to have been the manipulative ones. It was Lady Macbeth that got her husband to kill in order to become king after all. And the number of strong women behind great leaders throughout history has been staggering. How do you think they got there? A woman in those times wasn’t allowed to assert herself. She could only see her ambitions become reality through her husband or sons. Though historically the focus has been on females manipulating, it isn’t only women who play head games. In fact, men manipulate too even though they won’t easily admit it. And if he’s the right guy, his tactics are fine tuned. You aren’t even aware of them. Take a look at the ways men manipulate that fly under your radar and see if you awake from his spell. Has your guy asked you to be his gym partner, and motivate him to get serious about his workout? If so, he may have noticed that you’re carrying around a few extra pounds. Take a deep breath, lots of ladies do this too when they notice a beer gut on their guy.

Have you ever noticed a series of evenings where he sweet talks you into going to the new bar he wants to check out with his friends, or staying in and watching a flick he wants to see, without any regard for what you want? Make sure you assert yourself at least once in a while. And don’t ignore your friends either. Does every weekend have some exciting event he just has to attend, a retirement party, office picnic, birthday parties, and more? Make sure you guys slow down and have some alone time. It sounds like he’s ambitious however. Is he networking for some reason, or angling for a promotion? You should support him, but get him alone one weekend a month. Has your guy ever asked for a favor in front of his friends or others and before you can answer, grabbed you and called you the best or the sweetest? Now you have to do it, or else you look like a fool. Ask to see him alone for a second. He won’t pull that again. Have you ever had a guy buddy up to your dad? Dads are by and large very protective of their daughters. No dude is good enough for his little girl. You have someone to complain to and stick up for you. But to diffuse this, if your guy buddies up with papa bear, your dad may stand up for him, or get confused when it’s time to pick sides. Remind your father who his child really is. That will clear his head. There are lots of ways people manipulate one another. The important point is the intention behind it. Are they looking out for you? Or are they trying to get leverage? Ask yourself that the next time you are analyzing someone’s intentions. It can tell you a lot about your relationship. You can find more advice about manipulative men through books, such as Controlling and Manipulative Men: How to Spot Them and Handle Them by Lyn Kelley.