What many women want is a man’s attention, at least the right man. But there are certain things you can say that will flip his lid and make him think you’re the most special girl in the world. How do you do that? Here are some words to get his attention in the best of ways. First, tell him you are proud of him. He may be totally off the wall about what he’s just accomplished, whether it’s moving up in the company, acing that final exam or he just put an addition on his house, he may be modest about it. But if you tell him you’re proud and genuinely make a big deal he will glow and smile from ear to ear. Every man loves the enthusiasm and support of a good woman. It also makes you a part of his life. “Come here. I need you.” This is flirtatious, provocative and sexy. So what if you are knee deep in toddlers? Get a sitter once per week and get it on. You need that bonding time. Remember to invest in your relationship. It will keep your bond deep and loving. “Thank you.” Simple gratitude can go so far, especially in marriage and long term relationships. Something goes bad when we stop appreciating each other. It’s with loving kindness and compassion that a relationship as it moves on grows deeper and more profound instead of old and stale.
Leave him a secret or an invitation, and tell him “Secret date night” in a note. You don’t always have to make plans for date night. But it will keep things fresh and keep him interested. What a smooth operator you are. Plus it keeps the bar high for when he thinks of surprising you. Who knew there would be such a payoff from generosity? Even if you are in a long term relationship or a marriage it’s important to keep each other guessing and have fun. Why not plan a treasure hunt for them? You can even make it a naughty one. “I think she was checking you out.” Letting him know makes you his conspirator. He will feel more at ease with you, like he can tell you anything. What’s more it’s a playful and fun little ego boost for him. And guess who he’ll direct that energy toward? Men really hate shopping for women but if you drop a comment like, “My friend really loved the bracelet you got for me. She couldn’t stop staring at it,” he’ll feel amazing. Studies have shown that men want to be appreciated in long term relationships while women want to be desired. For more on how to keep the joy and spark in your relationship, read How to Find and Create Lasting Love by relationship expert Dylan Thrasher.