In the olden days, courtship was a rigid system and everyone knew what the steps were and how to go about it. Today, we make our own decisions. This gives a lot of people anxiety as they aren’t sure how they are supposed to go about their love lives, whether or not they actually want to get married due to the high divorce rate and with lots of young people growing up in divorced households, and fear that they are going to miss out or make the wrong decision and regret it. There is also a lot of guesswork going on when people are dating. Sure, you may know that your sweetie wants to get married someday but to whom, how soon and how will you know?
Women are often easier to read than men about this. For many women a long-term relationship, life partner or husband is the goal, though certainly not all. Men are a little more enigmatic. So how can you tell when he’s ready to tie the knot? Certainly cohabitating or getting a pet does not a marriage make, nor does it necessarily mean he wants to get married. Here are some signs that walking down the aisle is on his mind. If you cohabitate, has he ever mentioned the need to open up a joint bank account? Has there been talk of buying a home or car together? Men don’t take these issues lightly. There are signs that he is completely committed to you and is ready to take things to the next level.
Has your guy ever mentioned having children with you? Does he talk about what they might look like or tease you about it? If he does this, then having kids with you is on his mind. Children are perhaps the biggest commitment one can make. If he wants to have kids with you then marriage might be a foregone conclusion in his mind. He may merely be waiting for the right way, and the right moment to spring it on you. How well acquainted are you with his family? If you go to family get-togethers, holidays, wedding and funerals with him this is a huge commitment red flashing sign. When a man introduces his lady to his family that is a big step. But when you’ve become his permanent plus one and he wants you to get to know his family, and he wants to get to know yours, you can be assured that he sees you as his main squeeze from here on out.
Does he call you “the one?” Has trust deepened and jealousy dematerialized? These are distinct indicators he’s in it for the long haul. Do you two make long term plans together? A guy doesn’t do that unless he’s planning to stick around long-term. Does he go to events he despises, run errands for you he can’t stand like picking up your feminine products? If he goes to work-related events for you while secretly wanting to bolt out the door, he is so into you he would definitely like to make you his forever. If he’s showering you with love and affection, he loves you. Love him back, hint around a little about tying the knot, and make him yours forever too. For more insight on this topic read, The Real Reasons Men Commit: Why He Will-or Won’t-Love, Honor, and Marry you by Joel D. Block, Ph.D., and Kimberly Dawn Neumann.