When Your Child is Emancipated Do You Still Have to Pay Child Support?
When you first hear that your child is becoming emancipated, hope can dawn on many a cash strapped parent and ex-spouse. One question usually comes to their mind. When your child is emancipated do you still have to pay child support? But the issue isn’t that simple. It’s more complicated. Your child support responsibility doesn’t automatically end due to emancipation. Instead, you have to petition the court in order to terminate child support. Proceedings from this point vary according to state law. Child support laws vary considerably from state to state. In some states the minute a child turns eighteen child support is over. Whereas in other states it’s when the child turns twenty one or it could even depend on when they finish college. Emancipation itself is a different issue, but the laws on child support will influence the court’s ruling. There are states that require child support be paid to an emancipated child. Even though an emancipated child is supposed to be financially self-sufficient the court could decide that they receive a stipend monthly until they become a certain age. The original child support order may run in tandem or be extinguished due to this. It pays to have an experienced attorney on your side to help navigate this complicated issue.
Make sure you attend your child’s emancipation hearing. Your input won’t be heard otherwise and they may make a decision that is unfavorable to you. It doesn’t matter whether or not you support your child’s decision to become emancipated. You will be able to give your testimony and take part in the decision making process. Your input will be considered. Have with you a copy of your divorce decree. The judge may ask to read it in order to get better acquainted with the case. If they see for instance that this father is paying $400 per month in child support, the judge may redirect that money to the child. Or the court may decide that each party should contribute $200 per month to the child. The age of your kid is one of the most important factors. This will weigh heavily on the judge’s head. If it is a seventeen year old boy the judge may believe that the money being paid to the child is warranted, even if they can support themselves. The judge may also consider the position of each parent. If a parent is against the emancipation they may not grant the child support to the child. If you are angry at your ex-spouse, don’t direct that anger at your child or let that anger cloud your good judgment. Make sure that throughout you have the child’s best interest in mind. For more advice on child support read, Child Support Dollar$ and Sense for NCPs: Practical Advice, Guidance, Resources, and Much More for Non-Custodial Parents Juggling Child Support Issues by Marty Vaughn.
Some people have the gift of gab. Others are the strong, silent type. Still others don’t let you get a word in edgewise. Is this you? Do you talk too much? Do you think it may be driving others away? Sometimes our friends tease us and say we talk too much and it isn’t really true. And the tolerance level is different for everyone. But if you think you talk too much, take a look at past conversations with friends, dates, and others. What did you talk about? Did you dominate for much of the conversation time? Do you feel like you do that often? Interrupting others is a bad habit that overabundant talkers have as well. Do you do this in conversations? How often? Start to pay attention to other’s body language when you talk to them. If people don’t jump in, don’t add anything to the conversation, or even give you the cold shoulder and pretend to ignore you, you definitely may be over gabby. Now that you have identified the problem, it’s time to find ways to be more concise. You don’t have to give all of the details in every situation. Think about how to sum up what you want to say. Evaluate what you are going to say before you say it. Learn to listen and think about what the other person is saying; not just formulating your own response while they are speaking. The thing about people who talk too much is that they often overpower others with their talking. It’s not only excessive input, but it is disrupting or disregarding the other person, their opinion, and what input they would like to share.
Make a pact with yourself. You should decide to talk less and instead listen more often. Sync up with the other person’s body language and keep eye contact. Sum up more quickly, particularly if they are showing signs that they are growing impatient. Ask them open ended questions and wait for their opinion. Don’t interrupt. If you catch yourself doing so, apologize and ask them to please continue. Realize that the best conversations are where each person gets a chance to speak. There is a natural rhythm, a back-and-forth that comes out of a conversation. Another problem is that some people try to encapsulate one idea in just as many breaths. You should instead slow down and relax. Try being more patient. Another idea is to try and see what feelings or psychological undercurrents belie this overindulgence in conversation. Is it because you felt ignored as a child? Why not talk about it with a close friend, a parent, counselor, mental health professional, or a religious leader? Don’t stop talking all together. Keep talking, but think of this as developing you conversation skills into an art. Practice telling jokes; see what techniques great speakers and great storytellers use. Why not even explore taking drama classes? Women often have the problem of talking too much and sometimes it scares guys off. Of course, the opposite can be just as true. Think about improving your conversational habits and your love life will definitely improve.