Science Says What Kind of Men Women are Most Attracted to

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Science Says What Kind of Men Women are Most Attracted to

Guys are traditionally the pursuers, and even though we live in an enlightened society most women still prefer it that way. But lots of guys wonder what kind of man women are attracted to, and how to bring the best qualities out in themselves. Women tend to vary greatly in tastes. Lucky for most poor dolts who have hardly a clue, science has stepped in to try and answer the dizzying, age-old question of what kind of guy women want. Here are some of the things science has uncovered. If you’re flying without your wingman, you may find yourself cruising over lonesomeville for quite some time. For one thing, women rate men more attractive in group photos rather than when by themselves, at least according to a study out of the University of San Diego. Therefore, it stands to reason you look better when someone’s there with you. Researchers say this is due to something called the “cheerleader effect.” People look more attractive with their faces together, since incongruities in any one person are sort of evened out by the whole group. Another thing, women like men who know how to work a room. If you are always with an entourage and you’re the life of the party, or at least she thinks you are, you look high status and someone fun to be around.

Are you a single dad? Be sure to take your baby out cruising. Just keep it during daytime hours. Not only will you get father of the year, you might score a few phone numbers. A study in France found that men who cooed, smiled at and talked to infants were 40% more likely to score a woman’s phone number than those who ignored a baby. Researchers say it shows a greater propensity for being a good dad, should the couple have offspring. Some guys shave every day. Others sport a righteous beard. But why not shave every ten days? According to Australian researchers, men who did so were seen as the most attractive. This layer of stubble is thought to project just the right level of masculinity. Here’s some simple advice. Get some nice wheels and you’ll turn heads. If you can’t afford it, borrow some. A British study found that the same dude in a Bentley Continental was found way more attractive than one in a Ford Fiesta, even with the same clothes and facial expressions. Status is the reason, and the projection of resources which he may be willing to share with a certain, special lady.

If you’re an animal lover, taking your dog for a walk may not just be a necessity, but a way to meet someone. A French study found that women were three times more likely to give up their digits to a man walking his dog versus one who approached alone. Dogs break the ice. They also project kindness, sensitivity and thoughtfulness, all qualities women find appealing. Got a little extra time? Why not volunteer? A Cornell study found that women who knew a man volunteered found him a better candidate for dating and a long-term relationship, due to the fact that he was more selfless and compassionate. If you really want to get a woman to fall for you, make her laugh. A University of New Mexico study found that those guys who could make a sharp witted quip and make a woman laugh were more likely to have short-term, uncommitted sex than their straight-laced counterparts. These quick bursts reveal creativity and intellect, two qualities women greatly desire.

Lastly, if you want to get more hits on your dating profile, include the words “creative,” “ambitious,” and “laugh.” Dating sight Zoosk did a survey and found profiles that had these words got 33% more messages. Include words like “read” or “book” or exercise words like jogging, lifting weights and the like also increased message frequency. Be sure to take it slow. Mention “drinks” or “dinner” too quickly and your response rate will plummet 35%. So this advice improves your hit rate. But what about quality control? Read, How To Get A Date Worth Keeping: Be Dating In Six Months Or Your Money Back by Henry Cloud, and you’ll have that covered too.

How to be a Little Sexier to the Ladies

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How to be a Little Sexier to the Ladies

Whether you are always given the “I see you as just a friend” talk, you’re going through a dry spell or you just want to keep your game nice and sharp, there are simple, easy, practical ways to become more of a ladies man without putting a huge dent in your wallet or sacrificing your true identity. Here are a few suggestions that, while they may not make you irresistible to women, will give you a little bump in the hot department. Here’s how to be a little sexier to the ladies. A study out of Penn State University in Harrisburg found that men who sounded more confident were more attractive. According to the study’s co-author from Albright College, Susan Hughes, PhD, in the days of our Stone Age ancestors women were attracted to the one who could protect and provide for her and their offspring.

Study co-author Melissa Harrison PhD said, “Women are born with a finite number of eggs, thus limited reproductive opportunities.” Personality traits such as intelligence and confidence were highly prized then as they are now by women. That’s great, but how do you use this knowledge to your advantage? Speak a little bit louder and higher than you normally do says Hughes. Other studies have shown that the number one quality women find attractive is a sense of humor. Work on your jokes, timing and delivery. A quick witty statement put in the right place may make her look at you the right way. It was found that women equate humor and wittiness with intelligence, although in the medical, neurological sense they aren’t the same. They don’t inhabit the same part of the brain.

Take a look at your wardrobe. How many red clothes do you have? If you want to be sexier, wear a red shirt says a University of Rochester study from 2010. Standing against a red backdrop works, too. This color signals sexual excitement universally in all humans. Eroticism and passion are often fanned by the color red in imagery. There’s the red light district. It’s even the color of Valentine’s Day. To shave or not to shave, that is the question. Don’t shave. In fact, grow some heavy stubble. At least that’s what an Australian study found in 2012. Men with heavy stubble were found more attractive than those with a five o’clock shadow or were clean shaven. Researchers believe it’s because men with hairier faces are thought to be good fathers and are more masculine.

Smile when you meet her, when you are working a room, but not in photos. Women prefer a dark, brooding profile picture according to a Canadian study. Men who smiled in photos were thought to be less masculine. They were less dominant and more feminine. German and British researchers found that in real life, slow down your smile. A slow smile was associated with being flirty, trustworthy and authentic. Tilting your head forward can intensify this technique’s effect, the same research states. For more tips on how to successfully navigate the difficult waters of the feminine sex read, 10 Mistakes Men Make With Women & How To Avoid Them (The Wing Girl Method) by Marni Kinrys.

Funny Means Different Things to Men and Women

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Funny Means Different Things to Men and Women

No matter if you attend singles events, peruse profile after dating profile, or take a survey one quality is almost assured to be on everyone’s checklist, a sense of humor. If you’re funny, you have a leg up. But funny in what way? Does it play out in your favor? Funny means different things to men and women according to the latest scientific findings. Men generally want a woman that will laugh at his jokes and find him funny, whilst women want a guy that can make her laugh. McCaster University in Ontario found that a sense of humor was one of the number one traits both sexes look for in a mate. But that’s not all. What was shocking was how each gender defined a sense of humor appropriate for their mate. Men who made funny jokes were preferred by women a whopping 62% of the time. While men chose women who thought they were funny by an overwhelming 65%. In terms of friendship, things played out differently. Men liked when their female friends created humor.

Eric Bressler, the conductor of the study, says that this phenomenon isn’t really all that surprising. Men know that girls like funny guys, so they turn up their output of humor whenever an attractive lady is around. And women know that men like it when they laugh at their jokes, so a woman seems to laugh more when a suitor she’s interested in is trying to catch her interest. Of course, if you’re a funny lady, you don’t have to turn it down to catch a man. These are general differences between the sexes. The truth is that every person enjoys a good sense of humor in someone else, whether they are laughing at the jokes, or making them. So how do you let your sense of humor shine through on a date? First, put yourself at ease. Try to find something funny in the environment or situation. Have a few funny moments from your life or your friend’s lives on deck, in case the conversation falters. Try out different kinds of humor and stick with the type your date is most receptive to whether it be dry, witty, slapstick and so on. It will really pay off. To learn more about humor, read HA!: The Science of When We Laugh and Why by Scott Weems.

Ammo for Answering Why Aren’t You Married?

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Ammo for Answering Why Aren’t You Married?

Some people don’t know how to mind their own business. And it can be pretty embarrassing when they question your single status in front of everyone. The nerve of some people. But because they’re related to you they feel like they have the right to be a callous, ignorant, pushy pain. How are you legitimately supposed to answer that question? What are they expecting? What does it even mean? Instead, here is some ammo for answering, “Why aren’t you married yet?” First, let them know that people are living longer now, so why rush it? There’s no hurry. And with the divorce rate the way it is, wouldn’t they want you to be sure? Point out to them that just because people are married does not make them happier. Elucidate all of the things in your single life that make you happy such as your education, career, hobbies and interests and so on. Remind them that there were plenty of dictators and tyrants throughout history that were married. So being hitched does not automatically make you a better person. In fact, lots of plotting wives helped audacious husbands succeed and become tyrants throughout history. If you are a comic book fan let them know that virtually all the superheroes are single. And why is that?

Let them know that you don’t want to limit yourself to merely one disappointing relationship. Now there are all kinds of ways for you to be disappointed. And isn’t variety the spice of life? If you want to make a more serious effort, let them know that you just haven’t found the right person yet. Tell them you want to be knocked off your feet by the gusty gales of love, not settle for some little gust of happiness that blows through and is ordinary and so quickly over. The divorce rate is about half. So you want to make sure you do it once and do it right. If you are a free spirit and never planning on getting married, remind them that you do not live a conventional life. Why limit yourself to one experience while there is a multitude of experiences to be had, in love just as in any other category? If you are female let them know that the U.S. Census Bureau states that single women are happier than men, so you are in the right statistic. Also point out that married men are the happiest, so you are looking for the right guy to make happy. Lastly, question the reasoning behind this person’s question. Are they trying to pressure you? Are they just trying to tease you or be funny? Or do they want to make you feel uncomfortable? Perhaps a shallow barb will put them back in their place if they are being malevolent. But a small joke will put them back on track should they be teasing. For more advice on how to respond to annoying questions, read The Snark Handbook: A Reference Guide to Verbal Sparring by Lawrence Dorfman.

Wow them with your Emails

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Wow them with your Emails

With online dating, or people who are shy that you meet offline, email is the preferred method of communication. You work up from there to the phone call and if things go well, the first date. But you’ve got to get past the email phase first. So how do you wow them with your emails?  Here are some great ideas. First, write subject lines that set you apart. Don’t just say hello. Use what you know and be witty, funny and creative. Write a little thing about something you both like. If you are both fans of the same sports team, mention it, or the same rock band. Make it catchy and exciting. Compose your email so that your focus is on them. Read their profile carefully and find out everything you can, legally that is, about this person. But the other option is to ask them. Ask them about themselves. Find out more about them. They will love all the interest and attention. And they’ll be thrilled to ask you about yourself. Do pump yourself up. But be reasonable. And don’t play yourself as something you’re not. When the phone call or date stage becomes imminent your date might be in for a shock, and you some explaining to do. You don’t want them to be disappointed. And all of that work will be for nothing. Be polite but don’t agree to things you don’t agree with. Be who you are.

Do keep your email short. A few paragraphs should suffice; a page, a page and a half at the absolute most, unless you are some great romantic poet or a burgeoning novelist. Even then perhaps keep those to your works. Let things progress naturally. You don’t have to let them know your whole life story or everything you think about all at once. Leave them wanting more is a great Hollywood sentiment that bodes well here, too. Make sure your exit is graceful. Don’t do anything too flamboyant. Avoid coming on too strong. You are just in the figuring things out phase. You don’t want to scare them off before things have had a chance to develop. They may think you’re clingy or desperate. So err on the side of caution. Keep things a little casual, at least at first. Keep them wondering. Of course you’re interested, but are they the only one? Be a little mysterious if you think it suits you. Ask some of your friends if you aren’t sure whether it suits you or not. Ask them about their favorite book, movie, TV show, actor/actress, music group or what have you and research these. Research what they want to do for a living or are doing. Research everything and drop little tidbits here and there. Next thing you know, you’ll be riding the midnight train to firstdatesville.  For more online dating advice, read Cupid’s Guide to Online Dating: A Practical Guide to Finding Love Online by R.C. Lane.