Romance, Guy Style

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Romance, Guy Style

We all know what women find romantic. But what about when it comes to men?  How you do sweep a guy off his feet? Flowers, candle lit dinners and moonlit buggy rides aren’t it. It can be difficult to guess what gifts or gestures he’ll appreciate. But not to worry, here are some ideas. Here’s romance, guy style. First, when you do something nice for your guy, don’t expect something automatically in return. It kills the mood. You don’t want him to show up with a bouquet of your favorite flowers and just after you swoon say, “Hey, what are you going to do for me?” Instead, make sure a gesture or a gift is just that, an expression of your affection. Of course he’ll be overjoyed and won’t be able to wait to shower you with gifts and appreciation. But let it come naturally. Don’t force it or expect it.

For gesture ideas, why not cook him his favorite meal or bake his favorite dessert? Not so handy in the kitchen? Take him out to his favorite restaurant. If he’s a sports guy, take him to a sports bar where they have the best burgers for the game. For guys, it isn’t about a one size fits all thing like flowers or candy. It’s really about tailoring what his hobbies or interests are to your gift or gesture. Get to know your guy and what he likes and ideas will come up.

Tickets to the game or the concert, a nice watch, a weekend away, a ski trip, a party on the beach, a surprise camping trip to a national park he’s been itching to make it to, a massage, all of these will show him how much you care. Guys often plan dates, outings and so on, though certainly not always. But why not turn the tails on him and plan something that will knock his socks off? If you want to do something little, why not leave a little love note for him, or even a steamy one? Leave them in his briefcase, knapsack, jacket pocket, in a book he’s reading, his luggage or his satchel. Some guys don’t like it when things are too sappy. Others are the sensitive type. Know which type your guy is and write your notes accordingly. Why not write something funny or witty?

Sometimes just lazing around together can be romantic. Sitting by the pool with drinks, easing into a hot tub or coffee and a long brunch in a great café will do the trick. Don’t forget that for guys the physical aspect is an important part of romance. Surprising him in lingerie is always a great way to wow him. And it will make you two closer, too. Isn’t that what it’s all about? For more advice read, 31 Days to a Happy Husband: What a Man Needs Most from His Wife by Arlene Pellicane.

Grand Gestures that will Blow him away

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Grand Gestures that will Blow him away

Are you dating or married to a guy you are totally in love with? Do you want to show him how much you care? For guys it’s easy to come up with ideas to sweep a girl off her feet. A romantic dinner, her favorite flowers, a day at the spa, and a weekend away are all romantic ways to show her how you feel. With guys it’s a little different. You can be romantic with some. With others they find it a blow to their ego. He has no problem doing these things for her. But romance is considered something for the lady. So accepting a romantic gesture can be uncomfortable for some men, even emasculating. His friends may even tease him about it depending on the type of guy he is and they are. So it’s important that when you want to do a grand gesture to blow him away, you do it to fit him, his style and make him melt without blowing his cover. You don’t want to do something nice and end up making him the butt of jokes from his friends. So how do you deal with that? How can you expertly maneuver this fine line and show him how much you care? Here are some ideas.

How about a surprise vacation? Who doesn’t like a get-away? Where does your man like to go? What does he like to do? If you have the means, there are no shortages of places to go from Hawaii to Greece that he won’t enjoy or brag about. A surprise weekend away is always good. If he has a special hobby you can take him for instance for a surprise weekend skiing at a place he’s never been or always wanted to try, or a golf course he’s never been to. If he’s really into Hollywood, a weekend in L.A. will do the trick. If he’s an outdoorsman take him camping, fishing or hiking in a state or national park he’s never been to. Even bringing him to a hidden gem in your town or country can show how much you care.  What about getting him a gift that keeps on giving? Find out what he’s into. Say he loves bacon, there’s the bacon of the month club. There are one’s for beer, hot sauce, cheese, and so much more.

Ever think of getting him a massage from a proper masseuse? Ask casually first what he thinks of massages before you get him one. Or you can do one for him yourself. Make it a real treat, a full body massage. If you know anyone you can borrow a massage table from, do so. If he’s been particularly stressed out lately, do his chores for him. Give him a little extra time to relax and unwind. It will also show him that you’ve got his back. Set up that thing he’s always wanted to do. From sky diving, bungee jumping, riding in a World War II vintage plane over Manhattan or driving a race car down the track, find out what it is and make secret plans to fulfill it for him. Make him a special dinner once in a while, or buy a nice piece of lingerie if you have a physical relationship and text him photos of yourself. There are lots of things you can do for a man to let him know you love him, and make him feel not only like a man, but like a king. For more advice read, Romantic Gift Ideas for Men & Women-Anniversary, Valentine’s Day, Birthdays, Special Occasions by Suzie Summers.

Whip your Place into Date Ready Shape

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Whip your Place into Date Ready Shape

Going out is great. But it can put a damper on your budget. And who doesn’t like it when their date prepares a special meal by hand or snuggling up on the couch to watch a movie? Still, if you aren’t the type to keep your place immaculate and can’t afford a housekeeper, not to worry. You can do some fast and calculated operations to make the place look inviting and cozy, without screaming out that you’re a slob. Here’s how to whip your place into date ready shape. Guys, don’t let the smell of sweaty piles of laundry invade your living space. Do the laundry before you have a guest. Or get yourself a hamper with a lid if you’re short on time. A chenille blanket can make your simple couch look really nice. Get a small bunch of flowers and put it in a vase on the coffee table, kitchen table or dining room table. It shows that you’re willing to make an effort for your date. If you have a child, remove their toys, videos and video games from the living room and put them in their room. Of course they know you have children and hopefully your date loves your kids. But you don’t want these items ruining the atmosphere. Don’t leave out any risqué books and hide the relationship or self-help books.

Don’t leave financial papers out. Stash them away if you aren’t the type to file everything. You don’t want to send the message to your date that you’re not financially responsible. It’s bound to weigh on their mind and ruin the chemistry. Be sure to organize your fridge. Throw out anything that looks like a mad scientist’s lab experiment. Last thing you want is your date opening the fridge for something to drink and pass out from all the old takeout containers rotting on the racks inside. Make sure you have more than ice cubes and the light bulb when they arrive. Know their dietary likes, dislikes and requirements and be ready to whip up a snack should your tummies start grumbling. Make sure the bathroom is all squared away. Nothing is more of a turnoff than a bathroom that looks like a giant petri dish. Make sure the toilet and sink are definitely squared away. Prepare fresh towels. Be sure to have soap in the soap dish. You don’t have to have the shower spic and span. But it shouldn’t look like a gym shower either. Remember your date might peak. Don’t have dirty dishes piling up in the kitchen sink. Give your kitchen a once over. The right lighting, perhaps a few votive candles spread throughout the room, and the right music can do wonders for creating the right mood. For more date ideas, read Romantic Antics: Creative Ideas for Successful First Dates, Adventurous Saturday Nights, and Playful Long Weekends by Joy and Kevin Decker.

Trendy New Ways to Kiss

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Trendy New Ways to Kiss

Tired of the same old kissing techniques? Want to up your game? Here are some trendy new ways to kiss that will take their breath away and keep them coming back for more. The first one is called the waterfall. You do it when it’s raining outside. Put the umbrella away, grab your partner and start kissing as the rain falls on and all around you. All that moisture on your lips and face will add to the sensuality of the moment. Not to mention the moment you’re creating, so cinematic and romantic, it will blow your date away. What about butterfly kisses? Put your face really close to their neck or cheek. Flutter your eyelids and tickle them with your eye lashes. Follow that up with a string of kisses in the area you’ve just tickled. It’s a great way to put a little fun and innocence into necking. The area of the mouth around the lips is often ignored. But the truth is they are very sensitive and can create scintillating sensations when stimulated. Run your tongue gently around the mouth. Avoid your lover’s kisses but keep doing it to them. The teasing and this new sensation will drive them wild. Other areas of the mouth are not the only thing to explore while kissing. Use your arms and pull your lover in when they least expect it. Take their head in your arms and show them your power. The passion will rise dramatically.

When the season is right and it’s balmy outside, make it more torrid inside. Pop an ice cube in your mouth. Eat an ice pop. Or try some frozen fruit like grapes or strawberries. When your mouth is sufficiently cold plant one on your partner. A trail of kisses down their neck will give them goose bumps. And it adds a whole new sensation to the fore. Another great idea is tease and denial. After making out pull back and look them in the eyes. Then give them little tiny kisses but don’t make out with them again until they are begging for more. The next technique calls for a strong mint. Put it in your mouth but after the flavor has kicked in, ask your partner if they want one. But tell them they have to get the one you’re already sucking on. Not only is it a fun and titillating game, it produces a lot of deep kissing which is liable to make you feel hot and gooey inside. In many places in the Far East kissing is done with the nose not the lips. Try smelling each other, move around each other’s bodies as if you are going to kiss. But instead take in your lover’s sweet aroma. Very intoxicating. Why not try a little sugar for your honey? Use something sweet in your mouth when making out. A tiny little dollop of marshmallow fluff can add a sweet, gooey dimension. Lastly, try the stoplight kiss. When you are in the car swop a snog every time you come to a red light, whether a short peck or a long sensuous kiss, it will make the drive far more exciting. To learn more about kissing, read The Science of Kissing: What Our Lips are Telling Us by Sheril Kirshenbaum.

Doing a Picnic Date Right

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Doing a Picnic Date Right

What could be more heavenly than sharing delicious meal in a beautiful bucolic setting? But some takeout and your stadium blanket isn’t going to cut the mustard. If your desire is to impress, do a picnic date right. Here’s how. First, pick out a prime location, the more scenic the better. If you don’t know any in your area, do some research. Contact local, state and national parks in your area. Consider beaches or lakeside areas. Is there a lookout point or a waterfall nearby? Do some gumshoeing. An awe inspiring location is an easy way to look savvy to your date and get the romantic juices moving. Although it does look nice standing next to the blanket a basket is not necessary. You can do just as well with a canvas bag or a cooler. If you want the basket as a nostalgic touch but don’t know where to find one try epicnicbasket.com. Select a blanket big enough for the two of you and your spread comfortably. A waterproof blanket is definitely a plus. Ask friends, family members or neighbors if you can borrow one. Or if you want one of your own check out ourcornermarket.com, they have some nice ones.

Paper plates are convenient, but don’t convey the overall ambience you’re going for. Try bamboo plates. They are reusable, stylish and eco-friendly. You can get eight plates for under eight dollars at cooking.com. Get decent looking plastic wine glasses. Or try acrylic glasses if you really want to be fancy. Bring some wine. How about some lemonade or fresh brewed ice tea? For an added zing brew the tea with some mint. Pack a game to play, a Frisbee or some other fun little activity to share. Make sure to pack delectable items that travel well. You don’t want to hand your sweetie a limp, soggy sandwich after making sure all of the accoutrements were top notch. Make sure to know your date’s dietary particulars. What do they eat and what don’t they eat? Ask them what they really love and try to incorporate it. Try not to make any lettuce based salads as the leaves will be flabby by the time you get to them. Potato salad is a perennial favorite. Or things with crisp vegetables. Bring a portable radio and get some mood music going. Have a few conversation topics or funny little anecdotes to spring on the way up there or whilst sunning yourself on the blanket lest there be a gap in the conversation. Stargazing is nice. Why not offer a nice foot rub or a back massage? A picnic done right can bring you to a whole new level in dating. For other date options, read Fun Date Ideas: Discover Romantic, Inexpensive and Interesting Date Ideas for First Dates, Anniversaries, Valentines and Much More by M.D. Chuka.