A Beautiful Wife Leads to a Happy Marriage

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A Beautiful Wife Leads to a Happy Marriage

What qualities would you most associate with a blissful union? Love? Commitment? Trust? Good communication skills? Or just the wife being hot? A beautiful wife leads to a happy marriage, one study claims. Conducted by psychologist Andrea Metzer, over 450 newly married couples were tracked for four years. The question on the researcher’s minds, does having an attractive spouse lead to a happier marriage? It turned out to be true, but only for guys.

Physical attractiveness didn’t have any effect on the women directly. But the husband’s satisfaction increased his wife’s satisfaction. So indirectly it did have a positive effect. This study was published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. This isn’t the only study to reach this conclusion. In 2008 the Relationship Institute at UCLA did a study. Here they found that men felt lucky having married an attractive wife. This lead to a high level of marital satisfaction, as the husbands feeling lucky treated their wives well, increasing their satisfaction level too. But when the husband felt more attractive than the wife, the opposite was true. They didn’t feel the need to help her out.

Certainly, being attracted to your mate is important. There are different kinds of attraction however. And everyone finds something different attractive. But even physical attraction, though it can lead to overall satisfaction, isn’t enough to keep a marriage together. A deep bond of respect, trust, commitment and love are also necessary. Without them, many other problems will come between spouses. Though an important point, this study could also illuminate us on another issue that helps cause the demise of marriage, letting ourselves go and taking our partner for granted. Just because one is married doesn’t mean keeping ourselves up is over. Of course, we should be eating right and exercising for the benefit of our health. But we should also take proper care of ourselves so that our spouse still finds us attractive.

The marriage isn’t the end of wooing, wooing should still be an ongoing process to keep things fresh, and to keep the spark alive. Wear something nice around the house just for your spouse’s benefit. Every once in a while put on some perfume or cologne just to drive them wild. Reinvest in keeping your partner interested and attracted to you and loads of other benefits will come along. For more advice read, I Still Do: Bring back that Spark- Learn How You Can Rekindle the Flame Forever by Dr. Joshua Osenga, Ed.d.

Science Says What Kind of Men Women are Most Attracted to

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Science Says What Kind of Men Women are Most Attracted to

Guys are traditionally the pursuers, and even though we live in an enlightened society most women still prefer it that way. But lots of guys wonder what kind of man women are attracted to, and how to bring the best qualities out in themselves. Women tend to vary greatly in tastes. Lucky for most poor dolts who have hardly a clue, science has stepped in to try and answer the dizzying, age-old question of what kind of guy women want. Here are some of the things science has uncovered. If you’re flying without your wingman, you may find yourself cruising over lonesomeville for quite some time. For one thing, women rate men more attractive in group photos rather than when by themselves, at least according to a study out of the University of San Diego. Therefore, it stands to reason you look better when someone’s there with you. Researchers say this is due to something called the “cheerleader effect.” People look more attractive with their faces together, since incongruities in any one person are sort of evened out by the whole group. Another thing, women like men who know how to work a room. If you are always with an entourage and you’re the life of the party, or at least she thinks you are, you look high status and someone fun to be around.

Are you a single dad? Be sure to take your baby out cruising. Just keep it during daytime hours. Not only will you get father of the year, you might score a few phone numbers. A study in France found that men who cooed, smiled at and talked to infants were 40% more likely to score a woman’s phone number than those who ignored a baby. Researchers say it shows a greater propensity for being a good dad, should the couple have offspring. Some guys shave every day. Others sport a righteous beard. But why not shave every ten days? According to Australian researchers, men who did so were seen as the most attractive. This layer of stubble is thought to project just the right level of masculinity. Here’s some simple advice. Get some nice wheels and you’ll turn heads. If you can’t afford it, borrow some. A British study found that the same dude in a Bentley Continental was found way more attractive than one in a Ford Fiesta, even with the same clothes and facial expressions. Status is the reason, and the projection of resources which he may be willing to share with a certain, special lady.

If you’re an animal lover, taking your dog for a walk may not just be a necessity, but a way to meet someone. A French study found that women were three times more likely to give up their digits to a man walking his dog versus one who approached alone. Dogs break the ice. They also project kindness, sensitivity and thoughtfulness, all qualities women find appealing. Got a little extra time? Why not volunteer? A Cornell study found that women who knew a man volunteered found him a better candidate for dating and a long-term relationship, due to the fact that he was more selfless and compassionate. If you really want to get a woman to fall for you, make her laugh. A University of New Mexico study found that those guys who could make a sharp witted quip and make a woman laugh were more likely to have short-term, uncommitted sex than their straight-laced counterparts. These quick bursts reveal creativity and intellect, two qualities women greatly desire.

Lastly, if you want to get more hits on your dating profile, include the words “creative,” “ambitious,” and “laugh.” Dating sight Zoosk did a survey and found profiles that had these words got 33% more messages. Include words like “read” or “book” or exercise words like jogging, lifting weights and the like also increased message frequency. Be sure to take it slow. Mention “drinks” or “dinner” too quickly and your response rate will plummet 35%. So this advice improves your hit rate. But what about quality control? Read, How To Get A Date Worth Keeping: Be Dating In Six Months Or Your Money Back by Henry Cloud, and you’ll have that covered too.

Nurturing Yourself to Improve Relationships

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Nurturing Yourself to Improve Relationships

Everyone wants a relationship that is kind, passionate, successful and fulfilling. But what is often ignored are the steps you need to take in order to get there. You have to work on yourself to be ready for the right type of person and relationship that can embody these qualities. Nurturing yourself is key in improving your romantic relationships. Studies have shown that those who practice self-love are more forgiving, honest, are clearer headed about their relationships, and make better partners overall. It makes sense. Clingy people smother their significant others. And those who export their happiness to someone else put too much pressure on their partners. You deserve to have the right relationship and to be the right person within it so that you can help it grow and prosper. The first step is to explore the relationship you have with yourself. Are you kind to yourself? Do you give yourself a break when you need it? Or are you often self-critical and have exceptionally high standards for yourself? The people we find ourselves attracted to and those partners we chose for ourselves are reflections of inner forces. If you judge yourself too harshly or lack self-respect you are likely to choose someone who embodies those feelings. If you are kind and loving to yourself and have a positive self-image that will spill over into the type of person you choose for a mate.

Now it’s time to improve the relationship you have with yourself. Are you eating right? Do you exercise? Take a vow to take care of your body. Get enough sleep. Take part in an exercise regimen you enjoy and can do regularly. Find a healthy way of eating that works for you and stick with it. Those who improve their physical well-being have less sickness, better control of their stress, enjoy a positive self-image and better self-esteem. Next look at how you think about yourself. Do you call yourself names in your head? Do you listen to that little voice that criticizes? Instead find ways to reverse those things. Consciously select phrases and words that encourage yourself rather than discourage yourself. Give yourself a break. Practice loving kindness. When you’ve had a tough day, or did something wrong don’t attack yourself. Learn to give yourself a break. Think about what words you say or think when talking about yourself or your life. You can use those words to uplift you or send you screaming down into the shadows. It’s up to you. Find ways to mitigate stress that are healthy such as yoga, meditation, spending time with friends or watching comedies. Lastly, look how you treat yourself. Are you good to yourself or not? If not, find ways to celebrate little victories, overcome obstacles and learn how to treat yourself right. If you improve yourself you will glow and the person you are looking for will feel it like a beacon and come find you. To find out more on this topic be sure to read Self-Nurture: Learning to Care for Yourself as Effectively as You Care for Everyone Else by Alice D. Domar and Henry Dreher.

Things That Will Impress Her

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Things That Will Impress Her

A girl is either into you or she isn’t. One study showed that during first dates, a woman makes up her mind about a man in about twelve minutes. That’s all you have to make that first impression. For men it was slightly longer. Men were more likely to give someone a second shot. So you need to make sure you grab her attention in those first twelve minutes, and in a way that doesn’t get you relegated to the friend zone. But how? Sure there are certain subtleties that arouse women naturally that you can employ to up your chances if you have a date with someone you’d like to impress. Here are some little things you can do to impress her. Want to have a fun and exciting first date and have her pulse quicken while you’re around? Why not take her to an amusement park? One study out of the University of Austin Texas found that those who had just exited a roller coaster found a person of the opposite sex more attractive. Rapid breathing, a quickened pulse and all the things we associate with falling in love physiologically also occur after experiencing a thrilling ride. You can get the same feeling from watching a horror movie or an action flick, or thriller. Put your arm around her and comfort her, putting yourself into the masculine, caregiving role. Give her some positive touch releasing oxytocin the “love” hormone. Oxytocin releases the opposite of “fight or flight” which is often called “cuddle and connect.”

When picking out what outfit you’re going to wear, consider putting on a red shirt. You can adopt it into your style. Not to mention that research has shown men in red shirts are found more attractive, so says a study out of the University of Rochester. If you don’t own one, take her to a restaurant that has red walls as the study also found that men surrounded by the color red are alluring to women. It makes sense; red has always been the color of romance and passion. Perhaps that’s why Chinese brides wear red. If you’re the guy who has got all the dance moves, showing them off could make her swoon. The online journal Biology Letters recently published a study that said that torso twists and head nods were moves that enhanced a man’s attractiveness on the dance floor. These moves hinted at strength, flexibility and possessing great energy. Dancing telegraphs a man’s good physical condition and so making him highly prized from the female side of things. If you can really nail it, show her your moves. But don’t let the spotlight overpower your desire to be with her and make a connection or else you might find yourself dancing solo. Lots of guys feel like cologne is the way to go. Trouble is, you never know what scent she might like. That and you may be covering up your natural scent which could turn her on far more, at least according to research out of the University of California, Berkeley. For more on this, pick up a copy of The Attraction Handbook for Men: Harnessing the Power of Nature to Make Her Want You by Adam Slade.