A lot of women put tons of work into their appearance. But is makeup, an expensive purse and the latest fashions what men really like? There are plenty of things women do that men love that don’t cost a lot, or anything at all. Some men for instance like to see a woman after she’s hit the gym, in a simple tank top, shorts and a sports bra. Men love it when women wear their boxer shorts or one of his shirts. Men even like to see old photos of you, even if they are the geeky ones from high school. Though the fear climbs up many a man’s spine like a frantic monkey when children are mentioned, seeing a woman interact with children is heartwarming. Men secretly like it when you dote on them.
Though they may make fun of all the products you have in the bathroom, men love to see you pruning and primping. They also like it when women wear a little perfume, for no special occasion in particular, just for him. Men like it when women show a little preferential treatment to people in his family, such as helping an elderly aunt or being nice to his mother, even if she is a bit of a pain. Men love when a woman shares his passions in life. Enthusiasm for a favorite band or sports team can go a long way. That doesn’t mean that doing these things will help you catch or keep a certain man. But little things like this can make a big difference in a relationship. And when a woman does these nice little things the man is not only satisfied but feels as if he wants to reciprocate, and do nice little things for her and a virtuous cycle is created. For more advice, read Melt His Heart from Day One by Ray Lemon.
If you are choosing to be with someone long-term, maybe even the rest of your life, sure the feelings might be there but there is so much more to making a long-term commitment work. A committed relationship, especially a marriage, is something that once entered into isn’t easily reversed. You want to make the best decision possible, not be regretting it. Lots of people are in denial about something negative about their significant other. Others believe that once entered into a serious relationship they will change. But they probably won’t. Of course you can’t know every little in and out about someone. Nor can you tell how the two of you will change over time, whether you will grow together or apart. No one has a crystal ball to read exactly what will happen in the future. If you did, the future would be a pretty boring place. There’d be no surprises. Still, you want the best outcome possible. So there are some things you have to think about before you commit to someone, so you give the relationship the best chance at success. Of course, not all the questions have to do with your potential life partner or spouse. Some of them have to do with you. It takes two to tango and if you’re not in the right place you have just as much a chance of sinking it as your partner does.
Is your life in harmony? Are you able to juggle the demands of your job, school, children or whatever other responsibilities you might have? If you are in a healthy place you will be bringing that into the relationship. But if you’re not then that emotional state will lodge itself into the relationship, too. Learn how to manage and balance your life in a healthy way. A marriage or long-term commitment also takes time, energy and investment. If you can’t commit to that then perhaps this isn’t the right time to commit. Are you independent mentally, emotionally and financially? If you have to depend on the other person or they have to depend on you the power dynamic won’t be equal and the relationship will suffer as a result. Even if one person makes more money, make sure the other is contributing equally to the relationship in other ways. This should be a relationship of emotionally healthy individuals who want to celebrate their love together. Does this person share your desires, norms, morals, expectations and outlook for the future? If not you’ll have a lot of talking and working things out to do. But most couples who stay together happily share similar morals, dreams, outlook and goals. Take a good look at their family. If you can’t stand being around them you might want to reconsider this relationship, as you will probably be spending an awful lot of time with them. How do they treat you? Do you have to walk on eggshells? Do you have to do all kinds of things just to keep them satisfied? You want a relationship to uplift you not drag you down. Lastly, just evaluate how you feel about the relationship overall. For more things you should ask before a serious commitment, try reading 3,250 Questions to Ask Before Marriage by K. M. Ryan.
Whether you know a Jamaican man in your own country, or you are on vacation and are interested in dating a Jamaican man, the culture is a bit different than that of the U.S. The stereotype is that Jamaican men are controlling, womanizing, and disrespectful of women. The truth is they are like any other group of people. Some Jamaican men don’t treat their women well. Others treat them like queens. We cannot stereotype or generalize, but the culture can be a little bit different. Study the culture if you are seriously interested in someone of the Jamaican persuasion. Here are some things to get you started. If you are going out for a date, or hanging at home, realize that they don’t have the same fast food culture that we in the U.S. do. In fact, Jamaicans eat lots of fresh food prepared at home. Fast food may be okay once in a while, but of course it isn’t healthy so he won’t appreciate eating it all the time. So instead, why not prepare something at home, go to a healthier restaurant, or perhaps ask him to make one of his favorite dishes? And what makes a better date than cooking together? Jamaicans are said to have a number of jobs at one time. The truth is that Jamaicans have a strong work ethic. So don’t be afraid to ask him what he does. It will probably make for interesting conversation.
Jamaicans are very family oriented. In American society, being taken to meet a man’s family means that he’s serious about you. In Jamaican culture, not so much. Very often someone in the family is throwing a party. If they are aware of you they will invite you. But that doesn’t mean, should he be seeing someone else, that he won’t bring her to the next family party. So don’t take an invite or a point where you meet his family as too big of a sign. Also, Jamaican men often take what their mothers say to heart. Understand that her opinion in his life in general, and of you specifically, may carry more weight than an American man’s. If you are a bit prudish, dating a Jamaican may not be for you. In American culture, talking about sex is done behind closed doors, never in front of the family. In Jamaican culture the attitude about sex is much more laid back, and may even be discussed in front of the family. Understand this and don’t be too embarrassed if you find yourself in the middle of some awkward, funny, and interesting conversations. Machismo and masculinity is very essential to the Jamaican lifestyle. If you have any gay friends, realize that your Jamaican interest may be homophobic. Talk to him about it before you bring your gay friends around. Lastly, Jamaican men are thought to be smooth. Don’t get too caught up in his accent or the way he can put sentences together to charm and sway you. You can learn more about dating Jamaican men through the advice of Empress Yuajah in her book, How to Date a Jamaican Man: How to Love and Understand a Jamaican Man.