Divorced Wife Wants Donated Kidney Back

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Divorced Wife Wants Donated Kidney Back

Samantha Lamb of the U.K. made the ultimate sacrifice for her husband. She went under the knife and donated a kidney to him. He thanked her by asking for a divorce.  Now the 41 year old mother with one child wishes she could get her kidney back and give it to someone who in her eyes is more deserving. Ms. Lamb speaking to a British newspaper stated, “I can’t believe he now has a second chance to live to see his grandchildren grow up. I would definitely go through the operation again – but I wouldn’t give the kidney to him. I hate him. If I could I’d take it back and give it someone else. Obviously I don’t want people to be put off putting their names on the organ donor list. But all I want from him is his name on the divorce papers.” The couple met working together driving ambulances for an ambulance company. Andy, her ex was funny, quick witted and never stopped delivering punchy one-liners. They originally got together in 2004. Then they broke up, but soon after reunited. They were married in 2007.

Of this period Ms. Lamb explains, “We had a nice life, although there were signs that Andy wasn’t what I had hoped for. He was controlling, like not letting me wear perfume every day. But we had a three-bedroom house in a lovely street and I thought we were happy. Then Andy became sick. His kidneys were failing. But he didn’t face up to it. He just got angry. He thought the world was against him and everyone else was to blame. I loved him and wanted him to get better but his moods were awful and he’d take it out on me.” They discussed it. Over time Ms. Lamb convinced Andy to have one of her kidneys. He had children from a previous marriage and wanted to be around for them. The couple even took part in a BBC documentary about organ donation.

It was after the surgery that Andy started acting differently. He was very ill before. But afterward he was flush, strong and healthy. He even shaved for the cameras. Meanwhile, Ms. Lamb was exhausted. Soon he was as testy as ever. He would pick fights with her then disappear for hours. Soon the truth was revealed. “I confronted him about having an affair with my friend Clare. My mum and sister saw him with his arm around her, “said Lamb. “He denied it and stormed out.” Ms. Lamb confronted Clare who admitted the affair. Though she won’t be seeing her organ returned, she got some revenge, “I did what any woman would do. I cut up his clothes, put them in black bin bags and left them outside the house.” To learn more about infidelity and revenge, read the book, Cheated ON and Pissed OFF! 20 Real Stories of Revenge by Simone Summers.

The Most Expensive Divorce in History

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A court in Switzerland has just handed down the most expensive divorce settlement in history. Russian Oligarch Dmitry Rybolovlev was ordered to pay his ex-wife over $4.5 billion. Both the oligarch and his ex-wife received papers from the Geneva Tribunal of First Instance stating that the owner of AS Monaco, a popular French soccer club, must hand over the equivalent of $4,509,375,184.80 or 4,020,555,987.80 Swiss francs to ex-spouse Elena Rybolovleva who currently resides in Geneva. Both are age 47.  That isn’t all. The court also granted the ex-wife property. First, two luxurious chalets located in Gstaad, Switzerland worth $146 million or 130.5 million francs. Another piece of property was located in the tony Cologny district of Geneva. The couple had lived there with their daughter, now 13. They also have another adult daughter by the name of Ekaterina. Marc Bonnant, the ex-wife’s lawyer, called the ruling “the most expensive divorce in history,” certainly the biggest settlement the world over ever in history.  Tetiana Bersheda, Rybolovleva’s lawyer, said that the price tag is likely to be brought down in appeals that she is expected to file. Bersheda said in a statement, “There will definitely be a new appellate review and therefore this judgment is not final given the existence of two levels of appeal in Switzerland.”

Rybolovlev is known as the “fertilizer king” and was once the 79th richest person in the world. According to the Forbes Billionaires List he now ranks at 147th. His fortune is thought to be worth $8.8 billion. He made his money in potash mining. The husband and wife met where many couples do, in university, in the city of Perm, Russia. They fell in love and married in 1987. Divorce papers were filed in 2008 when Forbes said the oligarch was worth $12.8 billion. Rybolovlev’s assets were initially frozen in Switzerland and abroad by the court. Rybolovleva now lives in Cyprus. His frozen assets may hurt her as well, as there stands no legal aid treaty between Cyprus and Switzerland. The oligarch and his adult daughter currently hold some of the most expensive real estate in the U.S. including a mansion in Palm Beach, Florida and an apartment at Central Park West in Manhattan. Certainly divorces are expensive nowadays, but nothing to this extent for most people. Still, at around four billion dollars left, certainly Rybolovlev won’t be in the poor house for long. Even though billionaires seem to have lives so far away from our own and even though divorce is a terrible thing for anyone to go through, it feels good to know at least that those at the very top of the world still have a lot of the same problems that ordinary people do. Of course, losing your shirt in a divorce may be more devastating than half a fortune that still keeps you in league with other billionaires. Most people who get divorced often struggle financially afterward because of it. Still, having to hand over that much, if in fact that’s what will happen, has got to hurt. To learn more about the financial aspect of divorce, read Divorce & Money: How to Make the Best Financial Decisions During Divorce by Attorney Violet Woodhouse, CFP and Dale Fetherling.

Bankruptcy Can Have Adverse Effects On Divorce

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Whether you’re currently going through a divorce, or the divorce has already been settled, bankruptcy can have adverse effects.  If your divorce is currently under way and you or your ex files for bankruptcy, it will most likely slow down the divorce process.  Your divorce could actually be put on hold until the bankruptcy case is resolved due to the fact that bankruptcy is governed federally, while divorce falls under state jurisdiction, and federal cases usually take prevalence over the state.

In most cases, it’s better to file for bankruptcy BEFORE filing for a divorce.  This is because certain court orders will likely not be enforced if bankruptcy was already filed.  If court orders are already made and a bankruptcy follows, it’s more difficult to get those prior court orders changed or discontinued.

If you and your spouse file for bankruptcy jointly, your attorney fees could be less.

Make sure that you know the repercussions of filing for bankruptcy in your state and the potential impact it could have on your divorce case.

 

Temporary Court Orders Will Be Enforced Until The Divorce Is Finalized

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There will be court orders enforced throughout your divorce until it comes to completion.  These orders are made almost immediately at the onset of a divorce.  Court orders will cover various issues surrounding your divorce such as child support, alimony, child custody and visitation, and any other issues that may be specific to your divorce case.

When the divorce is finalized, there will be court orders established that will either be permanent or have a specific time frame.  Alimony, for example, may be awarded for a limited time or permanently, depending on your specific situation.

Keep in mind that after the divorce is finalized, you might still encounter issues with your ex that could require some type of legal action, even through the divorce court.  You or your ex can also file complaints pertaining to certain court orders if you don’t agree with them, even after the divorce has been finalized.  It could take several months to several years before you have everything squared away with the divorce, and it will likely take much longer if there are children involved.

Use of Social Media Sites is a Growing Factor in Divorce Cases

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The growing social media epidemic is being referred to as “social cheating”.  The Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers has reported that 81% of its members have come across information from social media sites such as Facebook, Myspace, Twitter, and others, while building a divorce litigation case.  It’s estimated that 1 in 5 adults use Facebook for flirting, including married adults.

Married adults may believe that they’re being sneaky by flirting over the internet, but apparently it’s not all that easy to hide, considering the surmounting number of divorce cases that involve “social cheating”.  This sort of behavior can be and has been used in divorce court hearings.  What you may have considered to be innocent flirting could be labeled as cheating in court.

The best thing you can do is to not have secrets with your spouse regarding your involvement in social networks.  Be open about the types of conversations you’re having, and if you’re seeking emotional fulfillment from someone other than your spouse, you should be honest with him or her and proceed to either end the relationship or attempt to work things out.  As evidenced in almost every divorce case, the truth cannot be concealed forever.  The longer you wait to open up, the worse the outcome will be when your spouse discovers your secrets.