TIME Magazine App Predicts when you should get married

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TIME Magazine App Predicts when you should get married

Do you know when the perfect date for your wedding is? If not a new app can tell you. Brought to you by TIME Magazine, this new app predicts when you should get married. It works by first analyzing your Facebook friends’ relationship statuses and ages. Then it determines the median age of your friends’ marriages and proposes that you marry about the same age as they were.

In terms of their calculation procedure, the app only uses friends who have selected to include their date of birth in their Facebook profile, up to and including the year. Researchers for TIME believe that only a quarter of Facebook users include this information on their profile. The statuses the software recognizes are “engaged,” “married,” “in a civil union” or a “domestic partnership.” This is a small number of the average Facebook profile’s friends. One reporter using the app said that it only selected 10 out of her 900 Facebook friends as these were the only ones who chose to report their relationship status. Many others keeping their status private were then not counted in the app’s calculations.

Though it’s interesting it doesn’t seem as though anyone is planning their marriage or dating life around this app, nor should they. It makes one wonder what the point of this app is in general. Is it merely to elicit interest in TIME? There certainly isn’t a perfect date or age to get married. And with the inflated divorce rate, though it has dropped a bit for some groups, having artificial pressures or anxieties tossed atop an already large pile from one’s family and society seems ludicrous and outlandish. Certainly people today know that marriage isn’t something to be taken lightly. Though it has a fun aspect it can make someone who is single feel bad about their situation, as if there aren’t enough things that do that already.

Why not forgo this app and turn to a dating one instead? There are lots of them. Some select singles in your area and make it easy for you to chat with them. Online dating is a great way to do it too. Remember to give the person you meet a chance. Serial dating can be fun in the beginning but can wear you out in the end. If you are dating someone do not use this app to pressure them into marriage. Nor should you show the selected date to your significant other as anything other than a joke. It could backfire on you. Then you’ll be contacting TIME and all over the news for reporting that their marriage app broke up your relationship. Bet that isn’t something they saw coming. Who could have predicted it? If you’re thinking of taking it to the next level in your relationship read, Before You Say “I Do”: A Marriage Preparation Manual for Couples by H. Norman Wright & Wes Roberts.

BDSM Dating App Helps the Kinky Get Together

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BDSM Dating App Helps the Kinky Get Together

Tinder has been so successful it has bred a near universe of similar apps with their own twist on its successful model.  If you are a shy guy, there’s Catch. Stylish sack jumpers who are also cerebral can meet on Hinge. Those who are very health conscious can find each other on SaladMatch. To select someone who knows how to give a proper salute try Uniform Dating. If you care about the person’s personality and not so much their looks give Willow a try. Black professionals can find possible mates on Meld. Try The League if you are wealthy and the other person’s net worth is of importance to you. The latest in this dating app tsunami is for those who want to get their kink on and find a partner that’s into the kinds of freaky things they want to do. Take Tinder and BDSM, put it in a blender and what shoots out is Whipir. This app does in fact allude to the likeness of the prior landscape-changing app. They also claim to be the only platform solely for the BDSM community. It is important to find someone who is open-minded enough, and trusting enough to allow us to explore our deep desires, and help us find out more about ourselves. We do so when we lead someone else through their deepest fantasies as well.

Whipir is user friendly offering free calls, real-time messaging and video chats. The usability of dating apps is one reason why people are pivoting away from the old-time desktop version which requires a lengthy profile process and often membership fees. Apps are so convenient and cost little if anything to use. Whipir is easy to navigate. You upload a normal photo, answer a few questions including your gender, location, kinky interests and level of experience and away you go. Your choices filter out other members and hopefully put you in front of people, or put people in front of you, that are looking for what you are. Then you can chat up those who seem as though they have potential and even send out a few “sparks.” These are interests you can propose to someone you might like to experience them with. This isn’t just for the initiated. Whipir invites the curious or those who have only just started exploring to join in the dark, titillating fun.

There are what they describe as “kink categories.” These include materials, accessories, objects, sounds and fashion. If you are into latex, love the smell of leather or can’t wait to be tied down, you imply it here. One unfortunate drawback though, it doesn’t get any more specific than these categories. So if you want to spank someone there’s no way of specifically knowing without chatting and finding out what another is into. Chief communications officer Daniel Sevitt told Refinery 29 that these categories were left vague on purpose. This was because they wanted to allow a broad interpretation of kink, and even to allow users themselves to define their own fantasies and interests, without the platform dictating it to them. There is another BDSM site called FetLife. They bill themselves as the Facebook of kink. This is more of a social networking site, whereas Whipir is an efficient dating platform modeled after Tinder. Analysts wonder due to the 50 Shades of Grey phenomenon if the app will become huge or sort of fizzle out. But if you are interested, Whipir may be the next great place to find someone to get your freak on with. If you’re interested in learning more about the intersection of technology and dating read, Love in the Time of Algorithms: What Technology Does to Meeting and Mating by Dan Slater.

When Using Dating Apps look out for Scammers

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When Using Dating Apps look out for Scammers

Only two years ago did steamy, hookup app Tinder hit smart phones across the nation. Today, they claim one billion matches among users. But not everyone on the app is who their profile says. 21 year old Kristin Shotwell, a junior at the University of North Carolina, was one day approached by a friend who showed her a profile, using her picture, of some girl named “Kim.” It said Shotwell was on the University of Georgia in Athens, when in fact she was on her own campus. Her friend texted her a screenshot of the Tinder profile. Shotwell told NBC News, “That is when it hit home, when I saw my face on a bio that had nothing to do with me.” Of course con artists have used love as a ploy forever. But dating apps are making scams much easier to pull off.  All a computer savvy con artist has to do is piece together a profile from information found on the internet, a photo here, a little information there and viola. For Shotwell, the profile and other photos were acquired from her Facebook page. But she says she made all of her photos private. The Internet Crime Complaint Center follows such crimes. The multi-agency entity says since 2012, dating app and website scams have cost Americans $55 million.

Though relatively new, Tinder boasts 10 million users. It has been so popular, corporate giant IAC recently bought more stock in the company. It is already a majority holder. Yet it felt the need to acquire another 10% to the tune of $500 million. Still, though popular, it may be a playground for charlatans. At this point, there is no way of knowing. It’s too new to have any statistics, yet. Security response manager Satnam Narang, from internet security giant Symantec told NBC News, “Because there are so many people using the app, it’s a ripe target for scammers.” Tinder matches you up with other users. You can select either to accept or reject them. But if a swim suit model or a shirtless man with a six pack responds very excitedly to your acceptance, you could be up against a bot. Bots are software that can give canned responses to questions. Some are easy to notice. They aren’t the best conversationalists. Ask something simple or even out of the ordinary and you are liable to foul them up. Still, every once in a while one slips under the radar. NTT Com Security consultant Chris Camejo said, “People are suckers when it comes to relationships. Show a guy a picture of a pretty girl and he will do pretty much anything.”

Many security experts agree. There are usually two types of scams you can run on a dating website. The first one is as mentioned, using bots. This is a low-quality, less time consuming, but high volume method. These scams are designed to deliver malware. Some also get users to adult websites. There are users on Tinder have reported, for instance, that after accepting a fake profile, they were brought to a game called “Castle Cash.” But Tinder in an email to NBC News said they were “aware of the accounts in question and are taking the necessary steps to remove them.” The other strategy is to have a fake profile, make contact and work a person, in order to get access to their money. This is analogous to the old swindle where a supposed U.S. serviceman, who after exchanging letters for some time, asks for a loan to buy a plane ticket, in order to meet in person. But once they receive the money, they never show up. Though Tinder has not had this kind of thing happen yet, other sites have. FBI Special Agent Darrell Foxworth in an interview on NBC said that these scams come from all over the world. Two Colorado women recently bilked 384 online daters out of $1 million, all told. Foxworth said that for the victims, “The emotions that they display range from anger to severe sadness and depression, and often times they criticize themselves for being duped out of their money.” He added, “It’s crushing emotionally and it can be crushing to them financially. It takes a toll.” Some aren’t outright financial cons, but instead mere hijinks. The scammer may be angry, lonely or just plain bored. Of course, it is important to be on your guard when using these sites. Most people are honest. But if you just get tripped up by a false profile, laugh it off. If they ask you for money get rid of them immediately, and report it if you can. For more on this subject read, How to Avoid On-line Dating Scams by Mitch Conway.

New Website Generates Personal Ads for you

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New Website Generates Personal Ads for you

Ever get stuck composing a personal ad online? There’s an app for that. A new website called Collective Love generates personal ads for you. Answer five questions and its algorithms go off to create the perfect personal ad for you. It doesn’t do this on one of the more robust dating websites. These are more for no strings attached hookups. Collective Love compiles information from the “casual encounters” section of Craigslist.org. Collective Love calls these “carnivals of refracted flirtation.” But some don’t find them nearly as clever. The questions it asks are where you live, your city and state, what sexual preference you have and how many sentences you want. The about section of their website claims, “With Collective Love, the amorous essence is extruded from a morass of anonymous expressions of lustful intent and offered to you. A product of the minds of thousands of strangers, it is not quite human, and yet not quite alien.” Journalists at Huffington Post tried to generate an ad in the women for men (w4m) section to see what it would come up with. The gibberish that transpired was just perplexing. It definitely did not fit what the about section espouses.

The lines it generates read differently depending upon where you are. You can play with it and see what it writes depending upon if you are in Canada, India or the U.K. for instance. It’s a lot of fun to play with. But if you are seriously looking for a no-strings-attached fling, this may not be the best way to draw out your best possible mate. Instead, why not do it the old fashioned way? Instead of focusing on your anxiety at this time, see it as sexual empowerment. Make it a hobby with getting some being your goal. Seek out exactly what you want. Take your time. Scroll through the ads others put out each day and find what you like about certain ones and dislike about others. Incorporate the things you like into your own. Decide on what kind of NSA relationship you want. Is this a friends with benefits situation, or a one night stand? Is this revenge sex or something to make you feel sexy and desirable after a protracted breakup or divorce? Understand what you are looking for in a mate. Be careful who you select. Speak on the phone a few times, exchange emails and meet in a public place, perhaps more than once to get to know the person and to make sure they are safe. Be sure to use protection. Don’t settle for someone who doesn’t flip your switch, respect you or treat you right. Make sure there’s chemistry, too. Invest, relish and enjoy the prospect of bagging yourself the right person for an NSA relationship. It can be a scintillating prospect if you let yourself relax and enjoy it.  For more advice on this topic read 25 Words or Less: How to Write like a Pro to Find that Special Someone through Personal Ads by Emily Thornton Calvo and Laurence Minsky.

Love Tech

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Love Tech

It’s hard to meet someone in the modern world with so much time spent on career, education, family and other responsibilities. Luckily there is some nice new love tech that can help you find that special someone. Take a look at these modern smart phone innovations and see if they may work for you. Do you want a mobile matchmaker that can locate singles for you in your neighborhood, in your area, or where you’re hanging on a Saturday night? An app out of Singapore helps you do just that. You can download the BEDD software at bedd.com. All you do is set up a profile along with a photo, answer some questions on what you are looking for in a date and when you’re out and about it will alert you to other subscribers in your area. When a match is found both phones let their owners know. Sense Six, a similar service is hitting U.S. shores soon. Keep an eye out for it if you want to know say how many eligible cuties are on your daily commute. It could help find someone at a party, on campus, at work, while shopping by yourself, out on the town, or when you may least expect it. And since you’re both subscribers it can help you break the ice, put you on equal footing and give you lots to talk about. You could even introduce them to that great sushi place right up the block. How did they miss that place?

Have you ever drunk dialed someone? Sure it can feel so right at the time. But in hindsight it’s often embarrassing. How can you stop this from happening? Never fear, an app called Dialing Under the Influence by Virgin Mobile Australia has come to save you. You have to enter 333 plus the number you want to avoid dialing while under the influence. You won’t be able to get through until six A.M. the next morning. The cost is a quarter per call. What if you are a shy guy who doesn’t have any female friends or any women in his life he can practice on? How can you ever get a girlfriend when you have no experience? In Hong Kong and other places there are virtual girls online to cut your teeth on. Enter V-girl.com. This is a virtual girlfriend you can woo like a real girl. But be warned. These aren’t your laid back tomboys. These are some serious high maintenance women. Think of a Tamagotchi pet on steroids. But instead of walks and food, you have to provide them with gifts, flowers, and lots of sweet talk. It’s not a charity date. You have to pay too and the charges are taken off of your credit card. The more time you spend the further your relationship with her develops. Ignore her you’ll get the cold shoulder. For more advice on meeting someone new, read Love Will Find You: 9 Magnets to Bring You and Your Soulmate Together by Kathryn Alice.