Romance, Guy Style

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Romance, Guy Style

We all know what women find romantic. But what about when it comes to men?  How you do sweep a guy off his feet? Flowers, candle lit dinners and moonlit buggy rides aren’t it. It can be difficult to guess what gifts or gestures he’ll appreciate. But not to worry, here are some ideas. Here’s romance, guy style. First, when you do something nice for your guy, don’t expect something automatically in return. It kills the mood. You don’t want him to show up with a bouquet of your favorite flowers and just after you swoon say, “Hey, what are you going to do for me?” Instead, make sure a gesture or a gift is just that, an expression of your affection. Of course he’ll be overjoyed and won’t be able to wait to shower you with gifts and appreciation. But let it come naturally. Don’t force it or expect it.

For gesture ideas, why not cook him his favorite meal or bake his favorite dessert? Not so handy in the kitchen? Take him out to his favorite restaurant. If he’s a sports guy, take him to a sports bar where they have the best burgers for the game. For guys, it isn’t about a one size fits all thing like flowers or candy. It’s really about tailoring what his hobbies or interests are to your gift or gesture. Get to know your guy and what he likes and ideas will come up.

Tickets to the game or the concert, a nice watch, a weekend away, a ski trip, a party on the beach, a surprise camping trip to a national park he’s been itching to make it to, a massage, all of these will show him how much you care. Guys often plan dates, outings and so on, though certainly not always. But why not turn the tails on him and plan something that will knock his socks off? If you want to do something little, why not leave a little love note for him, or even a steamy one? Leave them in his briefcase, knapsack, jacket pocket, in a book he’s reading, his luggage or his satchel. Some guys don’t like it when things are too sappy. Others are the sensitive type. Know which type your guy is and write your notes accordingly. Why not write something funny or witty?

Sometimes just lazing around together can be romantic. Sitting by the pool with drinks, easing into a hot tub or coffee and a long brunch in a great café will do the trick. Don’t forget that for guys the physical aspect is an important part of romance. Surprising him in lingerie is always a great way to wow him. And it will make you two closer, too. Isn’t that what it’s all about? For more advice read, 31 Days to a Happy Husband: What a Man Needs Most from His Wife by Arlene Pellicane.

Show you care no Matter What Day it is

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Show you care no Matter What Day it is

So Valentine’s Day has come and gone. Some people love it for a chance to cherish their loved one. Others hate the commercial Hallmark holiday aspect. Still others don’t want to be reminded of being single. But the truth is that we shouldn’t need a holiday to remind us how much we love that special someone in our life. In fact, if you are only using that particular holiday to show how much you care for one another, you will soon be seeing less Valentine’s Days, at least with that particular person.

Show you care no matter what day it is. If you keep feeling and showing your gratitude toward your romantic partner in words and gestures, they will return the favor. A virtuous cycle will be created that will sustain and enrich your love and relationship for as long as the two of you keep it up. Here are some ways to display the tempest of passion that lies deep in your heart. If your lover works in the service industry, whether a barista, a waiter or waitress, or tending bar, go in, flirt with them and leave a little tip. You can’t imagine what fun this will be, especially if your lover’s coworkers don’t know you.

Always hold the door open no matter what sex your lover is. If you don’t cohabitate but you do run errands together, pay for their groceries, especially if they have been struggling to make ends meet. If you do cohabitate pay something extra just to say I love you. When you are out and about running errands, buy them their favorite candy, or a little toy that reminds you of them. For an added bonus hide it somewhere in the house and let them find it unexpectedly. Whenever you notice a change in clothes or hairstyle, notice it and comment on it. Ladies, guys like it when you notice and compliment too. It’s not just for women. Call your sweetie at lunch or in the middle of the day just to see how their day is going. Tell them you couldn’t stop thinking about them. If the mood strikes you say something dirty, or just flirt with them. Make something for them, a knit scarf, a painting, a poem, a song, a tchotchke; make it from the heart. Something you made will always be worth more because of the talent, time and care you put into it. Make them their favorite meal, or surprise them with a dinner out on the town. There are lots of ways to show that special someone in your life how much you care. For more advice read, 31 Days to Build a Better Relationship by Clinton Power.

Must Haves for the Single Guy

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Must Haves for the Single Guy

If you want to impress a date when you bring them over, a few simple additions to your bachelor pad is all you need to wow them. You don’t need a leather couch, which is cold in winter by the way, not the best choice for a romantic date. Instead, invest in some of these must haves for the single guy. Don’t settle for a Mister Coffee coffeemaker. That’s not going to impress anyone. Instead, invest in a high-end coffee maker, or even an espresso maker. It’s not easy to use. But blending up a couple of cappuccinos at home can wow almost any date. If you’re really into java, or you know your latest squeeze is, get a bean grinder too. Your date will be awestruck and delighted when they smell the marvelous aroma of freshly ground coffee emanating from your kitchen. Another important idea, especially if you are planning a sleepover date, get a bedside lamp with a real shade. Nothing is more annoying than having to get out of bed and face the garish light of a fixture overhead. You don’t have to invest a lot. Ikea has many cost effective ones. But it will make your date much happier.

For those guys who are not the best housekeepers invest in a Swiffer or some other easy to use cleaning item. You can give the floors a once over before they come, making the place look squared away without a lot of time or expense. If your place looks like a garbage pit in a developing nation, you may have to up your game with some garbage bags, shelving and storage containers. It doesn’t have to be spic-and-span, but it does have to be presentable. Otherwise the mess is going to affect the mood. Get a very comfy sofa in a neutral color. It doesn’t have to be the most fashionable. A couple of throw pillows to accent it, in manly colors or patterns will send the message that there is more than meets the eye about you, not your average slob. If you may enjoy a sleepover date get nice, soft sheets with a high thread count. A good cookbook will be a small investment that will make a huge impact on at home dates. Even if you are not familiar with a spatula there has to be at least one recipe that is impressive and easy to make that you can pull off, if more than one so much the better. The Joy of Cooking is a great tome for the experienced and novice chef alike.

Laying Out a Great Dinner Date

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Laying Out a Great Dinner Date

If you’re a good cook and know how to lay on the ambiance, then the first dinner date at your place can be a great opportunity to show off your skills. But for most people, it can be a little nerve wracking. Will they like the food? Will you ruin the meal? What should you serve and what about laying out the table and so on? You want to set the atmosphere and leave them impressed, not running for the takeout menu. So how do you pull it off? Here’s how to do a great dinner date at your place, all laid out like the perfect table setting before you. First, you need to set the mood. And what’s more romantic than candlelight? You don’t need candelabra from the Liberache estate to build atmosphere. A couple of unscented votive candles, preferably the tall elegant ones, will add soft light and a touch of romance, while still allowing you to hold eye contact with your date. Don’t stop there. Make a nice centerpiece. Peonies are in. Place two or three in a vase. Or float the blossoms in a bowl of water. This move is classy, adds a beautiful touch but doesn’t cost a lot of time or money. Use a nice cloth table cloth and cloth napkins. It brings the meal from a dinner at home to a gourmet meal with your lover. What’s more romantic?

Wine is always a good choice. But if you want to set yourself apart why not meet them with a nice cocktail? Something sophisticated. If your date is female steer toward sweet drinks, a Cosmo perhaps. Gentleman may prefer a nice martini. Choose your wine carefully. You don’t have to spend a lot. There are perfectly delicious and classy wines to fit any budget. Typically, red wine is served at room temperature, or just slightly chilled. White wine is served chilled. Red wine goes well with red meat. Fish, poultry, vegetarian meals or pasta are more often paired with white. Make sure you know what your date prefers however. He or she may feel perfectly alright sipping a Riesling or Moscato over steak. When preparing the entre, pick something that is low effort yet looks impressive. You don’t want to work all day over a nice meal that your date turns their nose up at. A little discussion and paying attention to their tastes at other dinner or lunch dates can go a long way. Roast chicken is an easy thing to prepare. Cook it beforehand and just pop it in the oven when your date arrives. Make sure to stop by the bakery for the perfect dessert, or make a nice strawberry short cake, easy to make but impressive nonetheless. Bon appetit! For more ideas, read Dinner Dates: A Cookbook for Couples Cooking Together by Martha Cotton.

Great Date Ideas that Won’t Break the Bank

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Great Date Ideas that Won’t Break the Bank

With today’s economy the way it is, it’s hard to wow someone on a budget. But just as with gifts, it’s really the thought that counts. So if you spend your time heavy on the planning phase, you won’t have to shell out a lot or run up the credit card bills in order to have that perfect date. Here are some great date ideas that won’t break the bank. If you live near the ocean, why not try a day at the beach? It doesn’t cost you anything. The sound of the waves rolling in is relaxing. You’ll get to see your date in a bathing suit. And if you’re lucky they’ll ask you to rub suntan lotion on them, added bonus! A lake or a stroll in the woods by a babbling brook with a little dip in a swimming hole is a great alternative. Be sure to have a backup plan though if the forecast calls for rain. What about a drive-in movie theater? There’s the nostalgia factor. It doesn’t cost that much. You can find them all over the country, they’re making a comeback. Check out this website to find one near you driveintheater.com. And you get all the excitement of watching a movie with a big group of people with all the intimacy of being alone with your date in the car. There’s plenty of cheap junk food to be had, too. And who doesn’t like a steamy make out session in the car?

How about rollerskating? It can bring you back to those heady teen days of holding hands while skating together. If you are worried about the noise or too many kids, check your local rink. Lots of rollerskating rinks have adult only hours or late night hours. Some even have bars. Not only is it cute and fun but its great exercise and easy on the wallet. Why not make a candle lit dinner at your place? Who doesn’t love that? If you’re a great cook it’s even better. Go-karting is another fun date idea that fits into almost any budget. It’s fast, fun and can bring out a little lively competition. Why not go for a walk? Hiking is a great, inexpensive way to get to know your date in the beauty of nature. Browse hiking websites to see the best trails and most scenic local, state and national parks in your area. Search out any waterfalls or landmarks in the area you can hit on the way. Show your date the most tranquil spot. And think of how great your photos will look! A regular public park can be nice, too. Go on a day when they have art in the park, a market, or a concert. That’ll woo them. How about antiquing? Hit all the antique shops in the neighborhood. No one said you had to buy anything. With all these great budget dating ideas, you’ll finally be able to save a little money while still keeping your partner impressed. For more on this topic, read 50 Powerful Date Ideas: Brag-Worthy, Cost-Effective Dates from a Professional Dating Coach by Jordan Gray.