How to Find Him

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How to Find Him

Are you tired of waiting around for prince charming? It makes a great story. But in reality, if you are just waiting for the right guy to find you, you will kiss a lot of frogs without finding any princes. Instead, it pays to be proactive with your love life, like so many other aspects of life, rather than just wait for whoever comes along. But how do you find him, the right guy? He may not be the one, if such a thing exists, but the one for you. Don’t just sit on your duff and wait for him to arrive. He may not. And when he does see you, he may not recognize your interest, or that you two could be the perfect item.

Here’s how to make things happen. The first step, develop a gaze that shows how attractive and mysterious you are. Don’t just make eye contact, give him a look that will make him whither in his shoes. He’ll either strike up the courage to approach you, get a wingman to accompany him for a little support, or he’ll walk away, in which case it’s time to move on to the next potential candidate. If you see a cute guy walking a dog, approach them. Play with and pet it. Show how much you like dogs and start a little conversation. It’s a great, easy icebreaker. If you are an animal lover you already have something in common. And owning a dog shows he’s affectionate, responsible, caring and loving; good relationship traits.

If there is a nice guy you’d like to get to know better, use a pickup line. If a man uses it, it’s trite, unimaginative and falls flat. If a woman uses it, it’s funny, cheeky and lets him know you are interested. If you are at a sports bar or venue and see a guy you are interested in, use the game as an icebreaker. Ask who’s winning. What team is he rooting for? Ask about the rules. These questions will make him feel masculine as he can enlighten you on the information he knows. It will get the conversation flowing. And you’ll be able to judge his interest in you quickly. If you are a fellow sports fan, it should be easy to get the small talk rolling.

Another great way to capture a man’s heart is to be the damsel in distress. Have a problem you want him to solve. This works well on someone you know or have had your eye on for some time. Ask him to fix something for you, be it the printer in the copy room, something at your desk, your car in the parking lot, or wherever or whatever needs fixing. If he isn’t handy ask for his advice on something. Then thank him for his help. Offer to help him with something. Better yet invite him to dinner or lunch, on you as a thank you. There are lots of subtle and fun ways to maneuver the right man into your life. For more advice read, Get the Guy: Learn Secrets of the Male Mind to Find the Man You Want and the Love you Deserve! By Matthew Hussey.

Common Pitfalls of Attracting a Bigger Girl

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Common Pitfalls of Attracting a Bigger Girl

Are you interested in a lady whose shape doesn’t exactly fit the type on the covers of magazines? The truth is everyone is attracted to different things. As many know society and the media project unfair body images which make many women feel bad about their bodies. But the truth is lots of men love a woman with curves. In fact, many men prefer a bigger girl to a skinny one. There are lots of rumors about voluptuous girls on the internet. If you are interested in attracting a curvier woman don’t fall prey to the common pitfalls and stereotypes associated with attracting a bigger girl. For instance, there is a rumor floating around the internet that a fluffier girl is easier to attract as she has lower self-esteem. This isn’t true at all. There are women of all sizes that have high or low self-esteem. It all depends on the particular girl, not her size.

Women of all sizes have come to terms with and love who they are, just as women of all sizes have not. If you are approaching a girl whom you think is easy to pick up or attract only to realize that she isn’t, you’re going to be in way over your head. Instead, approach her as you would approach any woman, with class, humor, sophistication and an air of mystery. Some say that a bigger girl can defend and stick up for herself more, while a skinnier girl needs her man to defend her honor. The truth is women are women regardless of their size. If she has been offended you should stick up for her no matter her size. This is an unfounded stereotype.

When you approach her, don’t try to say things you think she’d like to hear due to her physique. For instance calling her cute is of course alright, but cute and cuddly should not be said. It’s actually offensive. Instead, tell her what you would tell any other woman. Tell her you love her eyes, her hair, or her smile. Tell her she’s beautiful, alluring, and special or however you genuinely feel when you approach her. Do not tell her that she’s got such a pretty face. It sounds like a dodge. Is it only her face you think is attractive? You are calling attention to her weight and could possibly make her feel self-conscious. But you want her to feel attractive. Just tell her she’s gorgeous or even that you love her curves.

Don’t tell her you are into big girls or that you like big, beautiful women. You are making her a fetish instead of liking her for the incredible person that she is. And is that all she is to you? Her size? Don’t objectify her. Celebrate her for who she is. Flirt with her. Dance with her. Ask for her number. Smile at her. Taker her out. Get to know who she is and compliment all the things you like about her. Don’t feel awkward dating her if others make you feel that way. If you really like her be yourself, be proud of dating her, and show everyone who you really are, how you feel about her and don’t worry about what others think. Love her for who she is. If she’s the right woman she’ll do the same for you. For more advice read, Big Big Love: A Sex and Relationship Guide for People of Size (and Those Who Love Them) by Hanne Blank.

Asking out a Girl in Karate Class

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Asking out a Girl in Karate Class

Do you take karate or some other marital arts class that’s co-ed? Is there a girl in that class that you have a crush on? It may feel awkward to try to hit on someone who can see you fall on the mat, have trouble mastering techniques, even a girl who is ahead of you or has a higher belt than you. But the truth is you can flirt with her, chat her up and even ask her out.  It doesn’t matter if she’s at a higher level than you. First, determine how long you’ve known this girl. What exactly is the situation? Do you know her outside of class or just in class? Have you known her long or have you just met her?

If you know her outside of class, find instances to chat with her. Talk about karate. Ask her questions like why is she interested in it? Has she been taking karate long and so on? Ask her the same questions if she is only in your class. If you have known her long, make sure you are not in the friend’s zone. Once a girl puts you in this place it can be very difficult, if not impossible to get out again. Show up early and warm up. See if she comes early too. If so, why not offer to warm up together? Make small talk. Ask her about herself. Stay late and work on you techniques or take some time to cool down. Ask her if she’d like to do the same.

There are lots of chances to get close to her. If you’ve noticed that she’s mastered a technique, tell her that you’ve been having some trouble with it and ask if she’d like to show you how to do it. Try to sidle up to her and be her partner when practicing techniques. Make little jokes while you practice together. Take karate seriously though. Stay focused. You don’t want her to think you are sacrificing karate, or only taking it to get close to her. Practicing karate together when you are just getting to know each other is great. You can break the ice more easily because you have some common ground to work with. You can also break the touch barrier more easily, in class during practice, and enter her personal space more easily, which if maneuvered correctly can be a great chance at flirting, or staving off the friend zone. If she’s a very serious student, flirt or joke with her lightly during class. If you go a little too hard she will be turned off by it. Instead, show that you have as much focus and drive as she does.

A little light flirting before or after class or when she is your partner is a great way to make your intentions known and feel her out for reciprocity. Keep it light and casual. If she’s behind you perhaps you can impress her with your superior karate skills. If she’s ahead of you however woo her in other ways. Show her your personality including how charming you are, your great sense of humor, that you don’t give up and other positive character traits. Show her that it doesn’t bother you that she’s great in karate. In fact, cheer her on. Make sure you don’t hang on too long. Ask her out, or for her number before you enter the friend’s zone. But feel her out for interest first. Don’t move forward if you haven’t a chance. Karate class will be awkward from then on otherwise. But if you have a chance, go for it. For more advice read, How to Connect With a Girl: Deepen the Interaction to Get Her Even More Interested by Jordan Amit.

How to Make a Flight Attendant Fall for you

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How to Make a Flight Attendant Fall for you

Flight attendants are generally good looking, poised, well put together, conscientious, friendly and accommodating; good qualities in a partner. But it can be difficult to make an impression with so many other passengers to take care of. How can you make a flight attendant fall for you? Let’s practice a little something from the Hippocratic Oath, first do no harm. That is to say, don’t take part in the usual annoying passenger blunders. In fact, find that you are helpful and this could be an inroad to your airborne baby’s heart. Make sure you say hi to them. Flight attendants are usually met with stone cold silence after saying hello. Board later or hang around if you see an opportunity and make some small talk. If you are in the way however get out of it. You don’t want to irk them, you want to impress them. Pay attention to the safety demo. You may even make a comment later that it was the best one you’ve ever seen. Pick out a particular part like the display of how to use a seat belt. This should elicit a laugh.  If they come over and ask you what you want make sure your headphones are off. Be specific with your order. They’ve got a whole plane to cover in a short amount of time. Make sure to say please and thank you. Everyone appreciates good manners. If you happen to have a copy of a popular magazine your flight attendant or their colleagues may be interested in, donate it.

Bring a little treat, sealed cookies or chocolates to share with the cabin crew. Don’t bring something that isn’t sealed or that is homemade. It will probably be confiscated before you get on the plane. You will be a big hit for sure. Stay out of the aisles and make sure to stow away your carry-on luggage in the proper manner. Now that we’ve gotten all of the stuff that he or she will notice in their job out of the way, your job now is to get closer to them. This is no small feat. On a long flight there is some time that the flight attendants have to hang out in the back or the galley. You could go over there and strike up an innocuous conversation. See if there are any outstanding items on his or her person that can tell you about this person. What kind of jewelry do they wear? Is there something that exhibits their personality? Tap into their love for travel. Why did they decide to become a flight attendant in the first place? Ask where they go from here, how they feel about the job and what they do on time off. If you see the flight attendants hanging around the airport before or after the flight sidle up and make some small talk. Don’t hesitate to get a flight attendant’s number. If you want to go for the last ditch effort, write a little note with your number and slip it to them when they come to collect your tray and before the flight lands. But it is better to make a personal connection first if you can. Realize though that their schedule may hinder long term relationships. Just understand what you are getting into. At the very least you’ll have fun flirting with the flight attendant. And they’ll enjoy it as well. To learn more about flight attendants read, Why Your Flight Attendant Hates You: And Other Useful Information for the Flying Public, Courtesy of a Former Flight Attendant by Morgan Carver Richards.

Using Bracketology to Find the Girl of your Dreams

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Using Bracketology to Find the Girl of your Dreams

Do you love basketball? Do you use bracketology to try and select your NCAA and your champ? A 64 member NCAA team has nine quintillion combinations. So it’s unlikely that you will select the winning combination. That said, you still fill it out. Why? Because you don’t have to be immaculate to be a winner. What if I told you that you could use the same strategy, bracketology to find the girl of your dreams? If you’re the type of guy to win in the office pool it should help you be just as successful in your dating life. The first thing you need to do is some scouting. You have to do your homework. In the NCAA that means knowing your teams and in dating that means knowing all about your dream girl. Visit her Facebook page, read her Tweets, check out her Instagram and view her Pintrest page. Chat up her friends. If you find out she has a certain thing she likes or a hobby she’s into, get to know more about it. Find out everything you can about her. Now you can use that information to start conversations with her, for dating conversations and to individualize dates to cater to what she likes, and hopefully you like the same things too. She’ll be swept up and wondering how anyone could know her so well. If you worry about cyber stalking, don’t. Women do it, too.

Don’t let your emotions get in the way. Even if your favorite team is a 16 seed and they are up against a one seed, don’t bet on your favorite. A one seed has never been beaten by a 16 seed. It’s highly unlikely that you will be satisfied with the result of that bet. So too if you are infatuated with a drop dead gorgeous girl. If everyone is telling you she is heartless, a gold digger, or extremely high maintenance, and you have seen this behavior yourself, even if you are totally into her, you should let this one go. The reason? This relationship though at first elating will sooner or later drag you down. She may push your friends away, suck out all of your energy and drain your bank account. Instead, take a step back, listen to your friends and that little voice inside that tells you to be careful and then decide what the best thing to do is. Look for the girl that doesn’t fit the normal story. Look for the Cinderella story. Sure she may not be exactly what you are looking for. But she may have other qualities that you don’t see at first sight. Maybe she’s a little too tall, short, big or little. Yet she could have the sweetest personality, be the most fun person to be around, and have the most exceptional naughty streak. Hold back on your judgments and get to know her a little bit. What’s more exciting than an upset in the NCAA? The same holds true when your heart gets surprised and all turned around, when a girl steps out of nowhere and glues you to the spot. That’s what makes it exciting. For more advice, read How to Be a 3% Man: Winning the Heart of the Woman of Your Dreams by Corey Wayne.