So you’ve decided that an NSA is the best way to go for you right now. You need to have fun right now but you don’t want anything serious. After a big breakup, even a divorce we need to help heal that pain. We need to feel attractive and desired again. There is nothing like passion to renew your sense of self-worth, give you validation and help heal those deep seeded wounds. Whatever the reason, you’ve decided to move forward, and you even have a candidate in mind. Even if you don’t, you don’t know how to broach the subject. It isn’t as hard as it initially seems. Though the idea may sound awkward to put forth, it’s actually fun and really sexy if done right. Here’s how to propose a no strings attached relationship.
Pick someone who you find attractive. Exchange a flirty look and make good eye contact. Eye contact alone can make a connection with someone. Now comes the approach. It doesn’t matter who approaches whom though it is customary for a guy to approach a lady. Buying someone a drink can come from either sex. If the person is worth their salt they’ll come around to thank you.
Now comes some conversation. Don’t be overt. Instead flirt. Exchange a subtle naughty flirtation. Mention somewhere in the conversation if you are talking and jiving and liking what you are hearing, that you just got out of an awful relationship. You aren’t looking for one now. You just want to enjoy your freedom and have fun. It’s important to establish this.
Most people believe that whoever they are interested in will at some point want to enter a committed relationship. But if you advertise the no strings attached part up front they know what they are getting into. If they are just looking for a relationship they may move on. But that isn’t what you are looking for. So instead of wasting time trying to convince them simply look for someone else in your position. Let this person know you find them attractive. It’s easy. A little touch on the wrist or the arm, a subtle brush against the arm, a grabbing and squeezing of the forearm, elbow or hand to make a point when speaking, or to laugh when joking will get it across. A well placed compliment is a great way to get your foot in the door too. If you’ve let them know that you are available, looking for fun but not interested in a relationship, if they are into the same thing, chances are they’ll take you up on it. If not, be assured that you won’t have to wait too long to find someone who is the right fit for you, no strings attached.