How to Find Him

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How to Find Him

Are you tired of waiting around for prince charming? It makes a great story. But in reality, if you are just waiting for the right guy to find you, you will kiss a lot of frogs without finding any princes. Instead, it pays to be proactive with your love life, like so many other aspects of life, rather than just wait for whoever comes along. But how do you find him, the right guy? He may not be the one, if such a thing exists, but the one for you. Don’t just sit on your duff and wait for him to arrive. He may not. And when he does see you, he may not recognize your interest, or that you two could be the perfect item.

Here’s how to make things happen. The first step, develop a gaze that shows how attractive and mysterious you are. Don’t just make eye contact, give him a look that will make him whither in his shoes. He’ll either strike up the courage to approach you, get a wingman to accompany him for a little support, or he’ll walk away, in which case it’s time to move on to the next potential candidate. If you see a cute guy walking a dog, approach them. Play with and pet it. Show how much you like dogs and start a little conversation. It’s a great, easy icebreaker. If you are an animal lover you already have something in common. And owning a dog shows he’s affectionate, responsible, caring and loving; good relationship traits.

If there is a nice guy you’d like to get to know better, use a pickup line. If a man uses it, it’s trite, unimaginative and falls flat. If a woman uses it, it’s funny, cheeky and lets him know you are interested. If you are at a sports bar or venue and see a guy you are interested in, use the game as an icebreaker. Ask who’s winning. What team is he rooting for? Ask about the rules. These questions will make him feel masculine as he can enlighten you on the information he knows. It will get the conversation flowing. And you’ll be able to judge his interest in you quickly. If you are a fellow sports fan, it should be easy to get the small talk rolling.

Another great way to capture a man’s heart is to be the damsel in distress. Have a problem you want him to solve. This works well on someone you know or have had your eye on for some time. Ask him to fix something for you, be it the printer in the copy room, something at your desk, your car in the parking lot, or wherever or whatever needs fixing. If he isn’t handy ask for his advice on something. Then thank him for his help. Offer to help him with something. Better yet invite him to dinner or lunch, on you as a thank you. There are lots of subtle and fun ways to maneuver the right man into your life. For more advice read, Get the Guy: Learn Secrets of the Male Mind to Find the Man You Want and the Love you Deserve! By Matthew Hussey.

How to Make a Flight Attendant Fall for you

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How to Make a Flight Attendant Fall for you

Flight attendants are generally good looking, poised, well put together, conscientious, friendly and accommodating; good qualities in a partner. But it can be difficult to make an impression with so many other passengers to take care of. How can you make a flight attendant fall for you? Let’s practice a little something from the Hippocratic Oath, first do no harm. That is to say, don’t take part in the usual annoying passenger blunders. In fact, find that you are helpful and this could be an inroad to your airborne baby’s heart. Make sure you say hi to them. Flight attendants are usually met with stone cold silence after saying hello. Board later or hang around if you see an opportunity and make some small talk. If you are in the way however get out of it. You don’t want to irk them, you want to impress them. Pay attention to the safety demo. You may even make a comment later that it was the best one you’ve ever seen. Pick out a particular part like the display of how to use a seat belt. This should elicit a laugh.  If they come over and ask you what you want make sure your headphones are off. Be specific with your order. They’ve got a whole plane to cover in a short amount of time. Make sure to say please and thank you. Everyone appreciates good manners. If you happen to have a copy of a popular magazine your flight attendant or their colleagues may be interested in, donate it.

Bring a little treat, sealed cookies or chocolates to share with the cabin crew. Don’t bring something that isn’t sealed or that is homemade. It will probably be confiscated before you get on the plane. You will be a big hit for sure. Stay out of the aisles and make sure to stow away your carry-on luggage in the proper manner. Now that we’ve gotten all of the stuff that he or she will notice in their job out of the way, your job now is to get closer to them. This is no small feat. On a long flight there is some time that the flight attendants have to hang out in the back or the galley. You could go over there and strike up an innocuous conversation. See if there are any outstanding items on his or her person that can tell you about this person. What kind of jewelry do they wear? Is there something that exhibits their personality? Tap into their love for travel. Why did they decide to become a flight attendant in the first place? Ask where they go from here, how they feel about the job and what they do on time off. If you see the flight attendants hanging around the airport before or after the flight sidle up and make some small talk. Don’t hesitate to get a flight attendant’s number. If you want to go for the last ditch effort, write a little note with your number and slip it to them when they come to collect your tray and before the flight lands. But it is better to make a personal connection first if you can. Realize though that their schedule may hinder long term relationships. Just understand what you are getting into. At the very least you’ll have fun flirting with the flight attendant. And they’ll enjoy it as well. To learn more about flight attendants read, Why Your Flight Attendant Hates You: And Other Useful Information for the Flying Public, Courtesy of a Former Flight Attendant by Morgan Carver Richards.

How your Mouth Decides if she’s Interested

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How your Mouth Decides if she’s Interested

You see her across the way. She checked you out subtly. Now she’s smiled at you and given you those come hither eyes. What you say next will either make or break your chances. What should you say? What shouldn’t you say? When should you keep your mouth shut and what should you offer up? How your mouth operates, that is what you say next will decide if she is interested in getting to know you better or more interested in turning her back on you. Here are some ways to make sure that when you approach you are confident, ready and have the where with all to survive but also the best shot at getting to the next level. First, practice what Germany’s University of Gottingen Professor Benjamin P. Lange, Ph.D calls “verbal fluency.” Use large words, complex and long sentence structures, and let her know how smart you are. It will let her know not only that you are well educated but have a high earning potential, even if your salary isn’t there yet. Speak confidently, don’t offer long pauses, and soon she’ll be calling you her “sexy professor.” You may think flashing those pearly whites will win her heart, but in fact suppress those smiles. A recent study published in the journal Emotion found that smiling often was a sign of being timid and feminine. You don’t have to be a straight-faced tough guy. But don’t walk around with a perma-smile either.

The U.K.’s Northumbria University unlocked the secret, the number one trait women are interested in, in men. That trait is a sense of humor. A perfectly positioned joke may wiggle your way into her heart. A sense of humor according to researchers is interpreted by women as a sign of honesty and intelligence. Make sure these are positive jokes however, jokes that are inclusive. Put-downs or negative jabs may turn her sour on you. Instead go for witty, fun, light-hearted material and she’ll fall for you. It may sound like a no-no but interrupting her, just to exclaim in agreement, at the end of her sentence to let her know you feel the same can build rapport rather than blockade it. Say, “Wow I feel the same way!” And later on “We have so much in common.” This shows what a good match you two are. Though men generally allow each other to finish sentences, women often interrupt one another when conversing. Don’t ever cut in to change the subject, only to agree with her. Now when you go in for the first kiss, make it the best one you’ve ever planted on anyone. A study out of the University of Albany shows that messing up the first smooch means you can kiss that relationship goodbye. Be assertive, use little or no tongue, and watch your breathing. According to this research these three elements are essential to producing a magical, stop-the-world-from-spinning kiss. For more on talking to and interacting with women in the best way possible, read Talking to Women Made Easy by Dave 4syth.

Great Ways to Ask Her Out

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Great Ways to Ask Her Out

Got your eye on someone but don’t exactly know how to broach the subject?  There are lots of persuasive and charming ways to get her to agree wholeheartedly to a first date and have her counting down the days. If you’re confused over the difference between an ask out and a pickup line you definitely need to rethink your approach. Here are some great ways to ask her out. The usual way it’s done is after a long session of chatting and joking. Ladies love a guy who can make them laugh. Show her your best side. Make sure to use good, open body language. Open handed gestures, great eye contact and a dashing smile can melt her heart and make her say anything. Here’s a great tip, use an element of your conversation together to hook her into a date. “Can you tell me more about your fascinating trip to Iceland over coffee?” Or “The funniest part of the story happened a few days later. Sorry, I’m running late on time. How about dinner this weekend and I’ll tell you the rest?”  Now what if there are spectators, her friends or her family? Instead, offer her your email address so that you can fill her in on whatever you were talking about, or send her a link to a funny video she just has to see.

If you met your love interest online, the phone ask out is the way to go. After emailing back and forth and a couple of phone calls you two are ready to meet in person. If you are a shy guy, it’s okay but don’t let this roll out to a series of calls or she will lose interest and move on. One or two calls is all. You may have gotten her attention by your perfectly composed and compelling emails. But talking on the phone is a whole new ball game. Just like anything else in life, prepare. Have a few crowd pleasing anecdotes, a few insights, an interesting question for her, and really listen to what she says and give feedback. Don’t hang around when you feel the conversation lag. In fact, it’s best to leave them wanting more. Why not tell a story or a joke and leave the ending for when you two meet face-to-face? There’s nothing like adding a little anticipation to boost interest. Lastly, you can never account for when you are going to meet someone. It often sneaks up on you. But if you are glued to the spot by some exceptionally beautiful creature in the supermarket line, the laundry mat, at the bank or some other public venue, don’t let the opportunity slide. You only live once. And don’t fear rejection. No one’s going to know. Instead, approach her and chat her up. Find something you have in common to talk about. Or make a witty comment about the situation or the décor. Compliment her on something. If the conversation goes well, ask her out to something without much commitment; a coffee, a drink, some dessert and so on. At the dog park have your pooch ask out hers, and you are the proxy. You and she can be their chaperones. For more advice, read Attract the Right Girl: How to Find Your Perfect Girl and Maker her Chase you for a Relationship by Bruce Bryans.

Get a Girl’s Attention Anywhere

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Get a Girl’s Attention Anywhere

Women are a complicated set. They do change considering the context unlike your run-of-the-mill male who seems pretty much the same no matter where he goes or what time you catch him. At night a bolder approach may be acceptable to a lady who during the day requires gentility and finesse to acquire a date with. So there’s no one size fits all to this ‘get a girl’s attention anywhere’ thing. Instead, there are a few rules you can follow and a few general plays you can put into practice that should be able to work for you. Talking to a woman requires a little panache, a devil may cry attitude and a confidence that doesn’t spill over into vanity or conceit. In the day be subtle. Try a little compliment as an opener. Be classy. Notice her shirt, her style, her hairstyle; something unique to her. Whether she’s at the grocery store or waiting at the subway stop, if you don’t mind rejection and you tighten up your game a little bit, it can work for you. But when it does you’ll be amazed at the number of women who may be interested in you, if approached the right way. Don’t fear rejection however. It happens to everyone. The best guy is the one who can perpetually be positive and not let it get him down, just let it wash right over him.

According to a recent survey by Careerbuilder.com 39% of office workers are trying to get together, even if their company has a no dating policy. Be very careful of dating at work. Make good small talk. Be confident but professional. Feel them out just a little bit with a smile or a tiny bit of flirting and see how they respond. Take it from there. Make sure you stand out. If you are the golden boy at work chances are she’ll be looking in your direction. When you’re out and about don’t try to pick up waitresses, baristas and so on. They have to be nice to you. It’s their job. If they really are interested in you, they’ll let you know. Flirt with them a little. Try and scope the place out and see what their shift is. Show up all the time on their shift and make small talk. Eventually you’ll get to know them and then you can ask them aside, maybe go at a time when it isn’t busy, and ask them out. When you are at a party, be the life of that party. Make the rounds, talk to everyone. Know which girl you want and see that she sees you making the rounds. Lastly, start a conversation with her. Studies have shown that besides confidence women want a man who knows how to socialize and work the room. It’s part of being the alpha male, something women are also naturally attracted to. After she sees you as the life of the party go and talk to her and she’ll more often than not be into you. The Pew Research Center has found that 38% of single adults use internet dating sites or apps to find a date. It’s a great way to find a lady. Just be yourself and think about what kind of woman would dig your profile. For more advice, read The Natural: How to Effortlessly Attract the Women You Want by Richard La Ruina.