How to Find Him

elevator

How to Find Him

Are you tired of waiting around for prince charming? It makes a great story. But in reality, if you are just waiting for the right guy to find you, you will kiss a lot of frogs without finding any princes. Instead, it pays to be proactive with your love life, like so many other aspects of life, rather than just wait for whoever comes along. But how do you find him, the right guy? He may not be the one, if such a thing exists, but the one for you. Don’t just sit on your duff and wait for him to arrive. He may not. And when he does see you, he may not recognize your interest, or that you two could be the perfect item.

Here’s how to make things happen. The first step, develop a gaze that shows how attractive and mysterious you are. Don’t just make eye contact, give him a look that will make him whither in his shoes. He’ll either strike up the courage to approach you, get a wingman to accompany him for a little support, or he’ll walk away, in which case it’s time to move on to the next potential candidate. If you see a cute guy walking a dog, approach them. Play with and pet it. Show how much you like dogs and start a little conversation. It’s a great, easy icebreaker. If you are an animal lover you already have something in common. And owning a dog shows he’s affectionate, responsible, caring and loving; good relationship traits.

If there is a nice guy you’d like to get to know better, use a pickup line. If a man uses it, it’s trite, unimaginative and falls flat. If a woman uses it, it’s funny, cheeky and lets him know you are interested. If you are at a sports bar or venue and see a guy you are interested in, use the game as an icebreaker. Ask who’s winning. What team is he rooting for? Ask about the rules. These questions will make him feel masculine as he can enlighten you on the information he knows. It will get the conversation flowing. And you’ll be able to judge his interest in you quickly. If you are a fellow sports fan, it should be easy to get the small talk rolling.

Another great way to capture a man’s heart is to be the damsel in distress. Have a problem you want him to solve. This works well on someone you know or have had your eye on for some time. Ask him to fix something for you, be it the printer in the copy room, something at your desk, your car in the parking lot, or wherever or whatever needs fixing. If he isn’t handy ask for his advice on something. Then thank him for his help. Offer to help him with something. Better yet invite him to dinner or lunch, on you as a thank you. There are lots of subtle and fun ways to maneuver the right man into your life. For more advice read, Get the Guy: Learn Secrets of the Male Mind to Find the Man You Want and the Love you Deserve! By Matthew Hussey.

Memorable Outdoor Dates

Happy Couple Growing Old Together

Memorable Outdoor Dates

Are you the outdoorsy type? If you can’t stand being cramped indoors and want to share your love for the great wooly wilds out your back door, these date ideas are for you. Just make sure your love interest is likeminded when it comes to trekking through the wilderness or you may find yourself hiking solo. But if you both like hitting the trail and basking in all the beauty and wonder of the great outdoors, these dates are for you. If you know your sweetie loves to hit the trails, why not find a local lookout point, a waterfall, or something of note? Make sure you find out how treacherous it is and run the hiking level past your honey or you may be hauling two packs up the mountain. Easier is better than harder when you are just getting to know each other, unless you are both experienced hikers or some other such expert. Have a picnic lunch ready for when you make it up there. For those who love animals, but want to keep it less strenuous why not a zoo or a local animal reserve? A wolf or bird sanctuary can be fun, too. For a cute option, go to a petting zoo. Pick-your-own farms are good ways to get some fresh air, do something different and get to know someone. There are often events and shopping opportunities, too, which are great for dates. Take advantage of a volunteer opportunity if you are both community minded and want to give back. Americorps or volunteermatch.org will give you lots of ideas from helping build homes for the homeless to building dog enclosures for a local animal shelter.

An amusement park can make a great date, especially if you are both adrenaline junkies. And a recent study found that a couple who has survived a dangerous encounter are more likely to be casualties of cupid’s arrow. A water park would be great fun, too. What’s more romantic than going on a boat? Sailing is romantic but perhaps a little too complicated unless the goal is to see if you two jive when doing something complicated together. Perhaps a day cruise would be nice. You can see yourself and your date chatting and laughing over some lovely scenery and enjoying the sunshine and the sharp briny air of the sea. A circle line cruise or site seeing cruise can give you a great backdrop for getting to know each other and setting the mood. For more fun, try water sports, a beach date or going to the lake. Fishing or visiting a swimming hole might be nice for a laid back date if your lover is so inclined. If you want to see if your love is in the stars, suggest stargazing. Go to a presentation of the local astronomy club. Horseback riding can be a great date scenario; it’s fun, active, takes the pressure off of trying to make conversation, and who knows what will happen? Finally, how about an outdoor concert? Lots of communities have them, especially in the summer time. Pack a picnic with wine, cheese, some fruit and other tasty vittles and you’ll never want to have a boring, indoors date again. For more dating ideas, read 41 Outdoor Dates by Drake Cyrus.