Arguments certainly aren’t good for any relationship. Usually, if you look close, there’s either another reason behind the argument or a simple miscommunication fired off an unneeded tiff. It’s good to follow your fight patterns and look for the origins. This can help prevent divorce by eliminating unnecessary fights, promoting more peace, well-being and a deeper connection. The real reason why you may be lashing out at your spouse is because you’re experiencing low blood sugar, according to one study. More people are irritable when they are hungry says research recently published in Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences. 107 married couples took part in this three week study. Once per day for those 21 days each partner had to stick pins in a voodoo doll to show how irritated they were with their partner. The more pins, the angrier they were. Blood sugar or glucose levels were also taken. This is one of the best indicators for when you are hungry. The feeling of hunger is actually generated in the body once blood sugar drops below a certain level. When glucose levels were low researchers found a spouse was angrier at their mate.
In the second part of this experiment the spouses played a game where they raced one another to see who could push a button faster when a character appeared on their monitor. The truth was the computer let each person win 50% of the time. When a spouse won they could play an annoying sound at their spouse at any volume and for as long as they wanted. Hungry spouses displayed more aggressive behavior. Professor of communication and psychology at Ohio State University Brad Bushman, Ph.D. wrote in a press release, “Even though the brain is only 2 percent of our body weight, it consumes about 20 percent of our calories. It is a very demanding organ when it comes to energy.” When glucose levels are normal then some of the behavior your significant other displays may irk you. But when your glucose levels drop, suddenly you can’t hold out anymore and you lash out, causing a fight, and perhaps hurt feelings. What are some of the things you can do to keep your blood sugar at an even keel? Try to avoid snacking on junk food. Sugary, salt-laden snacks with tons of fat in them can take your blood sugar on a roller coaster ride. Try eating small, healthy snacks of fruit, dried fruit, nuts and vegetables throughout the day. Don’t stay hungry too long. Don’t skip meals. Eat a healthy diet and make sure your blood sugar stays even, and your marriage should stay even keeled right along with it. For more advice on managing your anger, read Ending Anger: The Couple’s Guide by Suzanne A. Bare, MA.