Are you considering marriage or are you already married and looking for advice? Whatever your situation, it stands to reason that some of the best people to ask about marriage are those who have been divorced (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/11/18/marriage-advice-_n_4297651.html?ref=topbar). They have been there, reflected heavily on their experiences, and know what works and what doesn’t in a marriage. It’s important to gain perspective on marriage from many different people; single, divorced, married, or those in long term committed relationships. Different people’s perspectives can give you insight into the phenomenon of marriage and also provide you with different strategies for overcoming obstacles within your relationship. Lessons learned about marriage from the divorced can definitely save you lots of time, headaches, and hopefully a trip to the marriage counselor or divorce court. Why not try to incorporate some of this advice into your life?
People spend a lot of time planning their wedding, but little time planning their marriage. This is a major fault. Do things to keep the relationship fresh. A date night, especially after you have kids—if you plan on having them, can do wonders. Never stop dating or nurturing your relationship. After the honeymoon phase wears off and familiarity sets in, marriage takes some effort, commitment, caring, giving of yourself, and trust. Be ready and willing to dedicate yourself to your marriage and make sure your spouse will do the same. Build up your careers first before having children. The strain and financial problems will be mitigated far more easily. Always be honest with your partner even if you think he or she will get mad. Don’t ever compromise the bond of trust. Instead, trust should be cultivated and grow deeper as time goes on. Have some time alone doing your own things or exploring your own hobbies. You are your own person too. Remember no one has to love you so treat your partner right and expect them to do the same.