Expect the unexpected, be prepared, and look at each situation from multiple angles to prepare yourself for various outcomes. All of this sounds like good advice that we’ve heard before, but of course we always want our plans to work out flawlessly. Most people go into a marriage without a plan for divorce because the intent is to be united with this other person until the end. When there are talks of prenuptial agreements, many find this to be “unromantic” or view it as preparing for the worst, almost as though it’s dooming the marriage to failure.
For those of us who have gone through a divorce without a plan of action for if/when the marriage would end, however, we now realize that a prenuptial agreement would have been helpful to say the least. Learning from the failed marriage, we must also see that we cannot fully predict how the divorce proceedings will play out either. We may not get what we want and there could be an unexpected turn of events that leaves us paralyzed as to what our next move should be. Not that we should anticipate for the worst to happen to us, but we should know that we’re not immune to losses. Being prepared can be your best weapon in any situation. Getting punched in the mouth will still hurt, but you’ll already have a plan for how to get back up and continue fighting.